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Today with me Louis Brantmeyer an internationally recognized Public Speaker and Ceo/Founder of Speak Powerfully Now
Also Love and Relationship Coach
Every hero has a story
Today Louis will share his Story on how he grew up in a very hostile environment to then being diagnosed with Autism .
Most of his Youth he struggled feeling awkward in social settings and a severe depression kicked in.
Louis found ways, he will share with you here, to liberate himself and to now live a life in full expression and love of life.
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Transcript
Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis
Unknown:experience. I’m your host Aurora, and I’m very excited to
Unknown:be posting that interview for you today. My guest today is
Unknown:Louis Brandtmeyer. Yes, I pronounce his last name the
Unknown:German way. He probably pronounces it differently. But
Unknown:brandtmeyer it is. He is a relationship coach and CEO and
Unknown:founder of speak powerfully No. And it’s helping people to tap
Unknown:into their potential to unlock their potential and to let go of
Unknown:pain and suffering and restriction and suppression. He
Unknown:is just, yeah, an incredible person. And I was wondering,
Unknown:what is his story? You know how every hero goes through pain and
Unknown:suffering and adversity. I wanted to dig a little deeper
Unknown:and find out more about Louis today. So yeah, I’m very excited
Unknown:to have you here now with me, introduce yourself to us. And
Unknown:yeah, share your story. Gosh, well,
Unknown:thank you so much for having me. And I really love the title.
Unknown:super clever, I always appreciate a good fun. Yeah,
Unknown:where to start goodness. I’ve gone through everything from
Unknown:suicidal depression, and addiction, and anger issues, to
Unknown:just being generally awkward and socially unclear on what to do
Unknown:and how to relate to people or how to manage my own emotions.
Unknown:And it’s led to a lot of chaos. When I was growing up, my father
Unknown:abused my mother. And there were moments where things like, he
Unknown:would beat her well, he was she was pregnant with my little
Unknown:brother and just leave her to die on the floor. And then we’d
Unknown:have a duck there was like a family doctor who came in and
Unknown:luckily was like grumpy and angry and took care of her and
Unknown:drew her out of this. And so this is the kind of environment
Unknown:I grew up in. And, you know, consciously I don’t remember
Unknown:much. But subconsciously, there were a lot of layers of fear and
Unknown:terror and felt need to like, control my environment and
Unknown:people around me, so that I could be safe with the
Unknown:underlying belief that I wasn’t ultimately safe, either for
Unknown:people to be around because I come from that dad, or that I
Unknown:wasn’t safe, you know, just as an actor in the world, like
Unknown:that, that at any moment, violence could occur at any
Unknown:moment. You know, my tender heart could be sort of stumped
Unknown:on, or like thrashed at. And of course, I didn’t know about any
Unknown:of this. I grew up a precocious as I said, socially, awkward,
Unknown:somewhat anxious, but nerdy, obsessed with science fiction,
Unknown:deeply in love with, you know, Star Trek and Star Wars and all
Unknown:of that sort of thing. And I found my way, you know, grammar
Unknown:school, high school, I became super religious, and gave myself
Unknown:to Catholicism. And that really helped a lot at the time, like
Unknown:well, and eventually in college, and as I look back, there is a
Unknown:clear pattern and pathway to and a method to the madness in my
Unknown:life, up to that point where people were diagnosed with
Unknown:autism or Asperger’s Syndrome, as I was which I go back and
Unknown:forth on whether or not it’s even useful to bring that up
Unknown:from time to time because I disagree with the diagnosis and
Unknown:I’m more effective at sales and marketing and public speaking
Unknown:and engaging with people than a lot of neuro typicals people who
Unknown:aren’t diagnosed. So long story short, though, I found my
Unknown:routines I found my people to emulate I found my style of
Unknown:living. And it really wasn’t until later on, like after high
Unknown:school, that profound sort of unworked ability and instability
Unknown:and chaos in my behavior. And in my interactions and engagements
Unknown:with people started to show itself and largely precipitated
Unknown:by the use of marijuana and psychedelics. Right. So that
Unknown:that was kind of an unleashing, of the dragon inside of me. Like
Unknown:I started to become highly reactive and highly anxious and
Unknown:the suicidal depression around not understanding how to be in
Unknown:relationships and not understanding how to manage
Unknown:relationships effectively like, like led to some really deep,
Unknown:dark places. And how did I come out of it? Well,
Unknown:my family, I can say they didn’t know how to handle it. My
Unknown:mother, actually, no, the very first point of light on this
Unknown:journey was about halfway through high school and very
Unknown:high functioning autistic, right. So I was super brilliant,
Unknown:super smart, made excellent grades. If anybody talked to me,
Unknown:they knew that I knew a lot and that I was capable of a lot. And
Unknown:they’re immediately like, Oh, yeah, he’s really smart. But
Unknown:when it came to emotional intelligence, Hmm, I did not
Unknown:have that. Whether it was self regulation, or again, social
Unknown:intelligence, and managing emotions and connection. And I
Unknown:dated someone who was working on being a psychologist and a
Unknown:physical therapist. And at one point, after we broke up, she
Unknown:recommended that I get tested to see if I was on the autism
Unknown:spectrum. So I went to a cognitive behavioral therapist,
Unknown:and I got the test and it came back that it was highly likely
Unknown:that I was there, and I resisted the fuck out of that diagnosis.
Unknown:I said, I’m normal. I’m not, you know, there’s nothing wrong with
Unknown:me. I don’t think this is useful, and yet, um, threw
Unknown:herself headlong into the research around things like
Unknown:meltdowns, which, you know, I’ve come a little further along, and
Unknown:I have new opinions on what actually causes this, that the
Unknown:ultimate idea one of the ideas about autism is that autistic
Unknown:people actually have more emotional sensitivity, they do
Unknown:still have different brains, they just have more emotional
Unknown:sensitivity than neurotypical which is, most people on the
Unknown:standard deviation of how brains end up, right. And that that
Unknown:enhanced sensitivity leads to if experiencing a trauma or a
Unknown:moment where there’s intense emotion shutting down and having
Unknown:decreased functionality. And this is a perfect match to my
Unknown:experience. Now that I’ve done all sorts of work to heal,
Unknown:because I’m deeply empathic and cry at movies, I cry at
Unknown:everything, because I feel love and compassion and empathy and
Unknown:the intensity of what other people are feeling in a way that
Unknown:maybe they don’t, and maybe in a way that allows them to start to
Unknown:allow those emotions and that energy up for healing and for
Unknown:release and for letting go. And I never knew I would describe
Unknown:myself as a healer, but that that is who and how I am now.
Unknown:And it exists now in the context of a business development,
Unknown:coaching practice. But I’m bringing in the element I’m
Unknown:bringing back in the elements, both of live events that I had
Unknown:an empowering Austin now, and also the elements of
Unknown:Relationship Coaching, in order to have it just be a full
Unknown:expression of all the gifts that are in my heart. But um, long
Unknown:story short, I got the diagnosis, my mother understood
Unknown:the diagnosis, my mother started to sort of gently suggest that,
Unknown:you know, hey, Louis, you know, sometimes when you’re feeling
Unknown:emotions, it’s going to be like, your your shirt is on fire.
Unknown:Like, it’s not a normal sensation that other people get.
Unknown:There’s, there’s like a sensory sensitivity that is deeper and
Unknown:more painful than others. So you just be aware of that. And it
Unknown:wasn’t until I got in trouble or came close, excuse me to getting
Unknown:in trouble with the law, that I took a deep, strong hard look at
Unknown:that and thought, Oh, yeah, I do have a brain that’s different
Unknown:and a reactivity sort of sensitivity that other people
Unknown:don’t and I get to manage that I get to honor that. And it was
Unknown:somewhere. Actually, before that specific realization that I
Unknown:started to do personal development work in 2012. I was
Unknown:suicidally depressed because of a breakup with a woman who I
Unknown:deeply loved. And a friend of mine invited me very coyly very
Unknown:cleverly, to her graduation, quote unquote. And as luck would
Unknown:have it, if it was in fact a graduation from a communications
Unknown:course with the basically the world leader in transformation
Unknown:or Personal Growth Training and Development landmark worldwide.
Unknown:And it to me was the gateway into a whole world of self work
Unknown:of gaining tools for communication, gaining tools for
Unknown:emotional self mastery and intelligence, healing, pockets
Unknown:of trapped energy and emotion in the body. And over the course of
Unknown:the next seven or eight years, I had ups and downs. But I also
Unknown:went into entrepreneurship, which forced everything up, they
Unknown:say, if you want to deal with your shit, become an
Unknown:entrepreneur or go into like, get into a relationship
Unknown:conscious relationship, or both. And I was doing both for a good
Unknown:portion of that time. And thus had a lot of my my shit to look
Unknown:at and cancel clear on shit. I don’t believe that there’s
Unknown:anything wrong with anyone on the planet, you are not broken.
Unknown:There’s, there’s no shit that’s there for you to heal. There’s
Unknown:just ultimately resistance that we have perfectly created in
Unknown:perfect divine order and perfect timing, to protect us from pain,
Unknown:and to help us achieve more satisfaction that gets stored in
Unknown:our bodies as beliefs as perspectives as perceptions. And
Unknown:yet, it’s up to us to do the work to release that resistance
Unknown:in alliance with our superconscious mind or through
Unknown:healing or energy work. And so the more I’ve done to heal, the
Unknown:more recent sanitized, I’ve gotten the better results I’ve
Unknown:gotten in terms of health, and wealth and relationships and
Unknown:happiness and spiritual connection in purpose and
Unknown:leadership, all of it. Because I and I’d say How did I get out of
Unknown:it? Well, I started to take 100% responsibility for my experience
Unknown:for my reality, and started to say, Well, I’m going to do it.
Unknown:That’s it period. And it was really the desire to have a
Unknown:successful business. And to do whatever it took, like what was
Unknown:the carrot on the end of my stick that took me through all
Unknown:the zigzags and all the hard work and all the pain because I
Unknown:used to wear a shirt that says spiritual masochist. Because you
Unknown:know, we’re not here to feel happy, we’re here to feel fully.
Unknown:And if we feel fully, then we can feel happy, because feelings
Unknown:buried alive, never die. And we get to, you know, stew in them
Unknown:or move through them, and allow them up and feel them. And so
Unknown:yeah, I did a lot of that work. And it It wasn’t fun all the
Unknown:time. But the other side of it always was, I always felt
Unknown:better. And it became a positive addiction. So when I talk about
Unknown:addiction, by the way, I was pornography over the course of
Unknown:15 years, that I only very recently cleaned up. And so my
Unknown:personal belief to anyone dealing with mental issues, or
Unknown:mental health or emotional chaos, or depression or suicidal
Unknown:thoughts, is figure out what your purpose is on this planet.
Unknown:What’s your message to countries who you are for the world, and
Unknown:embrace that fully, and get devoted to that fully. We’re
Unknown:here to give to be a fountain, not a dream. And when we step
Unknown:into that consciousness, that awareness that we’re here to
Unknown:create, and to give, and we create, you know, in my world,
Unknown:entrepreneurship really is the vehicle for that. But it could
Unknown:be not a nonprofit, it could be serving some organization or
Unknown:group. For me, it was just like the carrot on to the end, the
Unknown:end of the stick was I’m going to live my purpose, I’m going to
Unknown:do it. That’s it period. And anything that gets in the way
Unknown:inside of me, I’m going to pull the weeds from my garden and
Unknown:find a clear space and state of my birth, what I consider to be
Unknown:my birthright of bliss, peace, love and joy, and compassion and
Unknown:act from there. So anyway, that’s that’s kind of the broad
Unknown:overview. You know, in a nutshell, how did that land for
Unknown:you?
Unknown:That was amazing. What I yeah, especially loved is what you
Unknown:just said with the weeds that you pull out your internal weeds
Unknown:because I feel a lot of times we take our past our circumstances
Unknown:or other people as excuse like external circumstances as an
Unknown:excuse to not do our work. Because it is so hard to look at
Unknown:yourself and to see our shit. I can change that behavior. I can
Unknown:work on that pain and let go of these emotions. It’s way easier
Unknown:to say Oh, I can’t do this because I’m so damaged and so
Unknown:burned from my past that Yeah, I don’t know what my purpose is.
Unknown:So to not take the external as an excuse and to really go deep
Unknown:and Feel what is inside of you, and then bring it out. I can
Unknown:also imagine that when you grew up as a child that you were very
Unknown:anxious and you were always, I don’t know, waiting for the next
Unknown:catastrophe to to happen. And that way, that’s why it was your
Unknown:intelligence, your protection, to numb out the strong feelings.
Unknown:But feelings that we suppress, kind of, yeah, clog up our heart
Unknown:and our whole being. And you were able to, to get out of it
Unknown:and free yourself from it. And yeah, it’s Wow, I’m blown away.
Unknown:It’s a very, very strong story. And it all makes sense, like
Unknown:everything you say, all makes sense, and is very easy to
Unknown:listen to. I just wonder now. So if you’re still struggling with
Unknown:like, thoughts, negative thoughts, negative self image?
Unknown:What would you recommend? is the first step to take when when
Unknown:you’re very still very insecure with who you are? Hmm.
Unknown:Yeah, there are a couple things. I mean, every for everything
Unknown:from the landmark forum, which they’re now doing online, as I
Unknown:understand, I think it’s like 700 bucks or something super
Unknown:worth it, to surrounding yourself with the people who you
Unknown:want to be, or be like or become, right. So coaching was a
Unknown:big part of the profound transformation from deep, not
Unknown:happy, negative thinking to positive thinking. We can never
Unknown:underestimate or more overestimate, frankly, the power
Unknown:of having someone so so your nervous system is conditioned in
Unknown:a certain way. We all carry a pool of poison and pain, called
Unknown:the past as trauma stored in our bodies stored as thought form
Unknown:stored as literal like sometimes people overeat in order to
Unknown:protect themselves or to shove emotions down, for example. So
Unknown:there could be literal fat cells and deposits, blocking people
Unknown:from feeling what’s there. And yeah, one of the things that I
Unknown:did was just start getting out of my head and into
Unknown:communication. Humans are meant to be in action. And in
Unknown:communication, we always flourish and function better and
Unknown:find more flowing and joy, if we’re in communication. So you
Unknown:know, I don’t love Alcoholics Anonymous, because, or those
Unknown:sorts of programs because they use our sacred word to affirm
Unknown:over and over daily, I’m an addict, quote, unquote, cancel
Unknown:clear, which you’ll notice that I use my language very
Unknown:carefully, in order to not have anything dropped into my
Unknown:subconscious, that I don’t agree with, and
Unknown:but long story short, we become the average of our five best
Unknown:friends. And when our nervous system is muddled, or mucked up
Unknown:by some trauma trigger, if we simply get into communication
Unknown:with someone else, who’s willing to listen, and to hear us speak
Unknown:without judgment, without reaction without trying to fix
Unknown:or change, or transform anything, who is just there to
Unknown:what we used to call a landmark, recreate, like to listen for,
Unknown:what was the person actually saying? What is the emotion
Unknown:behind the words? And what is the commitment behind the words.
Unknown:So I would call up one of my dear friends, over and over
Unknown:anxious, angry, frustrated, reactive, because a day had gone
Unknown:wrong or financial situation was not right or whatever, and he
Unknown:would just listen. And we, as humans, we often don’t listen,
Unknown:we’re listening to respond instead of to understand we’re
Unknown:listening to react instead of be fully present to the embodied
Unknown:communication of another. And you can tell this when you are
Unknown:speaking to somebody, like and I’ll just ask you, have you ever
Unknown:felt the difference when you’re talking to somebody and they,
Unknown:they’ve got your full attention? And you because of that you
Unknown:light up and you get more excited and you have more energy
Unknown:and enthusiasm versus when you’re talking to somebody and
Unknown:they’re kind of distracted? They’re not really listening?
Unknown:They’re like, Yeah, okay. Yeah, it’s it’s prohibitive, like it
Unknown:tunes the energy down. Does this match your experience, by the
Unknown:way? Oh, absolutely. Just yesterday, I had an experience
Unknown:yet. Hmm. So yeah, the power of listening and getting what we
Unknown:call it Committed listener. It’s it’s a step on the way to having
Unknown:a coach By the way, but it is something that anybody can do at
Unknown:any time in any place in the world is create what we, we used
Unknown:to call an 18. A group of people who always listen to you as as
Unknown:your highest self, rather than as the lowest common denominator
Unknown:of your thoughts and feelings, which we often in landmark they
Unknown:used to say, your mind is a bad neighborhood, it’s okay to visit
Unknown:but you don’t want to live there. You don’t want to stay
Unknown:there. Now. As I become a coach, yeah, as I become a coach, I’ve
Unknown:discovered that the more weeds I pull from my subconscious
Unknown:garden, again, the more I ally, myself, superconscious, mind and
Unknown:heal, the more My thoughts are actually supportive and
Unknown:empowering, I barely have negative thoughts. In my
Unknown:personal experience, I have moments when I’m triggered, and
Unknown:and that’s when I have negative thoughts. But the great majority
Unknown:of my experience is uplifting, hopeful, optimistic, willing,
Unknown:active, empowered, responsible, respectful, loving, gentle,
Unknown:kind. And those are all things that you can build yourself
Unknown:through just doing deeper and deeper layers and levels of
Unknown:healing work. So you know, the first step for somebody who’s
Unknown:just like dealing with garden variety, negative thoughts, or
Unknown:mental trauma or emotional chaos, is to assemble your team
Unknown:of Avengers of superheroes around you who you can call up
Unknown:maybe three or three to five at any time, like you can call one
Unknown:of them. If they’re not available. You call the next one
Unknown:and just say, hey, do you have space? And here’s the thing, you
Unknown:want it to be a contribution to them. You don’t want to be that
Unknown:guy who calls every every other day and says, I’m dealing with
Unknown:shit. Will you listen to me vent? No, it’s different. It’s
Unknown:different than that. It’s calling somebody after making an
Unknown:agreement to be that for them first. Giving them the gift of
Unknown:being that for them first, and then calling them with the
Unknown:intention to let go and clear, which is very different from
Unknown:Yeah, go ahead. What are you hearing?
Unknown:Okay, I’m hearing that. Okay, you experienced those feelings,
Unknown:you experienced that negativity, but you call your friend, you’re
Unknown:a team with the intention to give to somebody else. What do
Unknown:you need?
Unknown:Like, well, so it’s, it’s subtle. It’s subtler than that.
Unknown:Okay. The the way that I established the relationship
Unknown:where they’d always be willing to answer the phone, is by
Unknown:giving them and promising to be what I’m asking them to be for
Unknown:them first. Ah, yes. So that’s the first step. So there’s an
Unknown:energetic balance, there’s respect, there’s responsibility.
Unknown:There’s two adults coming together rather than one person
Unknown:looking for a hero, because there’s two ways you can be in
Unknown:the world. There’s Go ahead, go ahead.
Unknown:No, no, no, no, I’m just so fascinated. I’ve never heard
Unknown:that before. There’s two, yes.
Unknown:Two ways. There’s creator or consumer. And a creator realizes
Unknown:they’re 100% responsible for their health, wealth, happiness,
Unknown:relationships, and spiritual connection, their leadership,
Unknown:everything that they want to have be or do in the world or in
Unknown:their life is up to them. If it is to be it depends on me, as we
Unknown:say, the entrepreneurs credo, right. And yet, we’re taught by
Unknown:teachers, preachers, family, friends, media and government,
Unknown:that we’re not good enough. We’re not capable, we can’t do
Unknown:it. We’re unworthy. We have to look to external authorities
Unknown:outside of ourselves to figure out how to get rich or powerful,
Unknown:or these authorities. This programming that we received
Unknown:from society and culture tells us to get rich tells us to have
Unknown:a relationship that looks a certain way tells us that
Unknown:happiness only comes while you’re drinking a coke, for
Unknown:example, on commercials, right? And so that’s, that’s what
Unknown:created to create the condition to consume. And there are very
Unknown:specific ways in which we’re going to consume. We’re
Unknown:conditioned to consume as heroes who prove our worthiness to be
Unknown:loved or our value through rescuing people. And always
Unknown:needing someone who is less than us, for us to rescue. We consume
Unknown:through being a victim. Woe is me. There’s something wrong with
Unknown:me. I need someone to save me please call me and listen to me
Unknown:vent so that I’m going to be okay at the end of it like that.
Unknown:There’s a subtlety there, right? Why I’m going through this whole
Unknown:thing. It’s like it’s not that when you call someone else on
Unknown:your team, and you can also be a villain, which so if somebody
Unknown:really desperately wants love, but they’ve decided they can’t
Unknown:get What’s the next best thing significance and see you, I
Unknown:promise you, I promise you someone who walks into a bank,
Unknown:in a mask with a gun and waves that around, they feel
Unknown:significant when people start raising their hands and backing
Unknown:away and, and so being a villain is another way of and all three
Unknown:of these positions hero, victim and villain are about consuming
Unknown:other people’s energy rather than realizing Wait I’m I’m a
Unknown:power plant, I generate energy, I don’t need to take energy from
Unknown:other people. I don’t need to get anything from anyone, in
Unknown:order to be fully empowered or happy or successful. And yet, at
Unknown:the same time, we have traumas stored in our nervous system.
Unknown:And, you know, it’s difficult for us because suffering is pain
Unknown:multiplied by resistance. So we have pain from past traumas that
Unknown:we resist that we suppress that we push down that we what’s
Unknown:called pack and stack, we layer them on top of each other. And
Unknown:then we’re walking around, like, like somebody who’s whose hands
Unknown:are full of splinters, and we go to shake somebody’s hand and it
Unknown:hurts us, because we’ve got something inside that we haven’t
Unknown:dug out. So so most people most of the time walking around,
Unknown:they’re a walking ball of emotional splinters, where every
Unknown:step they take, they react. And our birthright is bliss is peace
Unknown:is love and joy, if we can get back to that primal innocent
Unknown:state, through doing the work of healing, and so on, you’re a
Unknown:team with your committed listener, you’re not calling
Unknown:them up as a victim, you’re not calling them up to make them a
Unknown:hero. You’re also not calling them up to make them a villain
Unknown:when they don’t respond the way that you want them to. I learned
Unknown:that lesson too. I didn’t know that I was operating from the
Unknown:victim villain because you can be a victim hero or victim
Unknown:villain. And I lost some friendships that way in the
Unknown:process of practicing this, or added a lot of stress and
Unknown:pressure to some really sweet like super contributory generous
Unknown:people. Because I wasn’t sensitive to it. So
Unknown:you know, when I say and communicate and begin to touch
Unknown:and stay and feel with deep pain and emotional trauma in my body,
Unknown:in my energy system, it can be overwhelming, it can be intense.
Unknown:But if someone else is listening, if someone else is
Unknown:paying attention, then they can apply mindfulness and
Unknown:equanimity, which are terms from Buddhism, precision in
Unknown:awareness, and allowing or non resistance like indifference to
Unknown:the physical sensations that I’m experiencing in a way that I
Unknown:can’t, as as a reactive stimulus response mechanism, right? We’re
Unknown:all mammals, and we all like put a hand on a hot stove, and we we
Unknown:launched back, right. So it takes something but it doesn’t
Unknown:take that much. Like, one of my primary jobs as a coach is to
Unknown:just be fully present for people. And when I’m just fully
Unknown:present, whatever needs to happen will happen. Whatever
Unknown:needs to come up will come up, no matter what somebody is
Unknown:feeling, anger, sadness, grief, depression, anxiety, whatever,
Unknown:it can help them to step into their full power and authority
Unknown:to feel through. And on the other side, that resistance that
Unknown:they’re holding on to gets let go of, and the the
Unknown:quintessential expression of how to do this yourself or how to
Unknown:employ, so to speak, a committed listener to do this is in David
Unknown:Hawkins, his book, letting go the pathway of surrender. He’s
Unknown:an MD and a PhD. And his work is amazing. I was handed the book
Unknown:by the former CEO of the third largest real estate company in
Unknown:the world. And he said, Here is a key to my success. And I was
Unknown:like, Mind blown because I had been around, you know, new agey
Unknown:hippies for years talking about feel your feelings and focus on
Unknown:visualize what you want. And it wasn’t until the really
Unknown:successful, fulfilled wealthy, rich and accomplished
Unknown:entrepreneurs around me started saying, hey, this, this is what
Unknown:I did. This is how it works. Like, you need to feel your
Unknown:feelings you need to get emotionally intelligent. And so
Unknown:yeah, if I were to quit, how I was successful, or how I went
Unknown:from mentally unstable and chaotic, and dissatisfied, and
Unknown:depressed and dark, and all of that too successful on
Unknown:accomplished and helping people around the world become the same
Unknown:way. I would say it’s emotional intelligence. And I would say
Unknown:it’s also spiritual intelligence. Because there’s
Unknown:something going on in this universe that’s more than us
Unknown:more than our little egos. And whether you call it God or
Unknown:superconscious, mind or source or spirit or infinite
Unknown:intelligence. I don’t care I’m just checking in, like, like,
Unknown:imagine there’s a higher perspective and you we talked
Unknown:about my my picture on the wall, my artwork right earlier, you
Unknown:can’t see the picture while you’re inside of it. And we’re
Unknown:inside of a picture. We’re inside of a grand story, we’re
Unknown:inside of a grand adventure that is meant to work out a certain
Unknown:way. If we surrender if we align with our purpose, our highest
Unknown:good our intuition, and some of those things took me many years,
Unknown:I started Catholic and then I became atheist for a long time.
Unknown:And then I just recently wrote a post about how I often while
Unknown:dancing the EDM, find myself kneeling, and facedown in prayer
Unknown:on my carpet weeping, because I can feel my own connection with
Unknown:a higher power infinite intelligence that that helps me
Unknown:as a vehicle for grace, to unleash people’s souls and
Unknown:hearts from deep trauma and pain and resistance. And it’s it’s a
Unknown:profound, profound gift. And, and I’m grateful that I’ve done
Unknown:the work to be able to embody that level of love. And I mean,
Unknown:I have to say this too, I’m not always perfect, I lash out at
Unknown:people, I get angry, I get frustrated, I get anxious. From
Unknown:time to time, I’d say like, maybe five times a week, on
Unknown:average, like, which is probably distinctly super, super low
Unknown:compared to most of humanity. But I have tools for digging
Unknown:myself out within 10 minutes to 30 minutes. And as an example,
Unknown:just before this call, one of my clients was like, Hey, where’s
Unknown:this thing. And by the way, you didn’t say that you didn’t put
Unknown:this thing in this folder on Dropbox and, and I felt anxious,
Unknown:I was like, Oh, I’m not perfect. My core wound of the the
Unknown:original identity of I’m not perfect, got triggered. So I
Unknown:just sat with it, put my hand on my stomach, and said, Hi,
Unknown:breathe.
Unknown:I touch this sadness, this anxiety. I feel I stay. And I
Unknown:love speaking to the inner child speaking to, to that version of
Unknown:me that was reacting, and then it cleared. So I mean, you can
Unknown:do the work yourself. You can do the work with others,
Unknown:ultimately, do the work. And you’ll have more bliss, peace,
Unknown:love, joy and accomplishment and better relationships than you
Unknown:could have ever imagined.
Unknown:Ah, Louis, thank you so much for sharing all of this, like I know
Unknown:you, you brought so much value just now to people who maybe
Unknown:have never been in touch with spirituality and empowerment and
Unknown:self growth. What I forgot to mention at the beginning, this
Unknown:is only part one of Lewis brand Maya. Next time, we will
Unknown:continue this conversation and maybe dive deeper into porn
Unknown:addiction and relationship coach how to? Yeah, go from trauma and
Unknown:pain into loving yourself and then being able to love and
Unknown:support somebody else. Thank you so much for your time, Louis.
Unknown:That was incredible. I think we covered everything we we want to
Unknown:talk about. Is there one last thing you would like to share
Unknown:with us? Or do we just jump into next episode next week?
Unknown:Oh, my goodness. Yeah. What’s coming to me right now is a
Unknown:quote from the Tao Zhang which is He who realizes that what he
Unknown:has is enough, is truly rich. And you know, starting they’re
Unknown:starting with gratitude and the understanding that you’re not
Unknown:broken, everything is perfect. All things are working for good.
Unknown:From the highest perspective. And, and this is it, there’s,
Unknown:there’s nothing else you need to be do or have than, than who you
Unknown:are right now. Just Just concentrate on creating
Unknown:something that you love, or aligning with your purpose. And
Unknown:I promise you opportunities to do the work will show up along
Unknown:the way and just do the work. It’s okay, and find someone to
Unknown:help. Last piece. There’s an organization that I love. It’s a
Unknown:nonprofit that helps people in a lot of these ways and I’ve
Unknown:gotten a lot of my thinking around this from the
Unknown:organizations called Earth waking University. And they have
Unknown:an event called awaken to life live, where you can go from
Unknown:dark, depressed and suicidal as my someone who I deeply love did
Unknown:very recently, and come out the other side hopeful,
Unknown:enthusiastic, clear, lit up. It’s free. Usually it’s $2,000
Unknown:or it’s worth $2,000, but I’m able to give it away for free,
Unknown:it’s at bi T dot L y forward slash Awakened Life live all
Unknown:lowercase, no spaces, I highly recommend you check it out. I
Unknown:don’t make any money for recommending that people go.
Unknown:It’s just like a gift and part of an organization that I think
Unknown:that if somebody wanted to take an action, right on what they’ve
Unknown:heard here, that would be sort of the best action that they
Unknown:could take. so wonderful.
Unknown:We will make sure to put this in the show notes, and the link to
Unknown:your Facebook account or your web page. Of course. As always,
Unknown:thank you so much for being here today. It was a great honor for
Unknown:all of us. You’re so welcome. Thank you so much for listening
Unknown:to this interview. I will make sure to put all the things you
Unknown:need to connect with Louise. If you’re interested in finding out
Unknown:more or maybe even book a coaching session with him. I’m
Unknown:yeah, blown away. One more warrior. You know, I pick guys
Unknown:intentionally to come onto my show hard driven leaders, to
Unknown:inspire us to give us hope, and to take the focus away from
Unknown:aggressive bullies. And people who don’t spread as much
Unknown:goodness as my warriors here. So I’m very excited to have Lewis
Unknown:on board. Enjoy the rest of your day. This was the Borealis
Unknown:experience podcast for you with Aurora Eggert.
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