hey there,
Wow, feeling stuck was such a big part of my 2020.
How was it for you ? Was living in confinement a piece of cheesecake for you or did you feel depression creeping up on you or any weird thought patterns and feelings ?
What went wrong when we end up feeling bored and stuck and can we do to unstuck ourselves ? What can we do in the future to be more resilient ?
Well my friend…. 🙂 you will find out in this episode here ( and in many more episodes to come)
Also I have my first podcast website up and running now.
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with love
Aurora
Transcript
Hello,
Unknown:and welcome to the Borealis experience. My name is Aurora.
Unknown:I’m so happy to have you. Today I want to talk about feeling
Unknown:stuck. I think the COVID situation, wherever you live has
Unknown:affected you. And I think we all felt pretty much stuck at one
Unknown:point or the other. How did it make you feel? How did you cope
Unknown:with it? Did you come up with creative aterna artists? Or was
Unknown:depression creeping up? Surely but surely would surely. Yes,
Unknown:COVID COVID 2020, we will not forget. So what do we do when we
Unknown:feel stuck, we can feel stuck during COVID confinement just in
Unknown:general in life can feel stuck in a job that we don’t like. We
Unknown:can feel stuck in a situation with a friend, again, is stuck
Unknown:in a romantic relationship. And what are the things we can do?
Unknown:When we feel stuck? I feel we first have to explore what we
Unknown:might not be doing. And the consequences to feel stuck. I
Unknown:feel that we’re not living with our five senses. When we feel
Unknown:stuck, we’re focused so much on the thing that we don’t like
Unknown:that we forget to appreciate things with our whole body and
Unknown:soul, and attention. Because if we would, it is less likely to
Unknown:feel bored and stuck. I feel that if we feel stuck, we’re not
Unknown:100% honest with ourselves and not 100% expressing ourselves
Unknown:expressing what we need. Because if we were to express full
Unknown:heartedly, honestly, what we need, we wouldn’t feel bored or
Unknown:stuck. So what is it now that doesn’t allow us to experience
Unknown:life with our full senses. And that makes us feel as if we’re
Unknown:not being heard and understood. I think it is deep rooted
Unknown:beliefs that hold us back in those moments. And it is an
Unknown:attitude shift that we need in order to appreciate again, or
Unknown:get out of the situation that we feel stuck in. So let’s have a
Unknown:look at an example here. Let’s see a person who is in a job
Unknown:working a job and is really not enjoying himself. He picked this
Unknown:job because he got out of school and he has to make money. Plus,
Unknown:he wants to be independent from his parents. And money just has
Unknown:to come in order to have money to pay rent. So if you can hear
Unknown:maybe in the tone of my voice already, he’s making decisions.
Unknown:And the intentions are how do you say practical? It makes
Unknown:sense to an outsider. Yeah, of course. Well, you have to work
Unknown:to make money and then pay your bills and blah, blah, blah. But
Unknown:he’s not making the decisions from the heart. He’s making them
Unknown:from the head from a rational space. If you were to make the
Unknown:decision from the heart, he would work a job that doesn’t
Unknown:feel like a job, he gets up in the morning and loves going to
Unknown:see his co workers and to get shit done. He loves what he’s
Unknown:doing. So that person is less likely to feel stuck, right?
Unknown:Because he made a decision from the heart. He followed his
Unknown:passion, and is radiating that beautiful energy. And this
Unknown:attracts people. So people want to spend money on that person.
Unknown:And that person is not going to feel stuck. It is the person who
Unknown:makes rational decisions, practical decisions that are
Unknown:only mind
Unknown:driven.
Unknown:Let’s have a look at a relationship.
Unknown:The
Unknown:Flower Power, how do you say the lovey dovey I meant the lovey
Unknown:dovey beginnings are over. And now you moved in together. And,
Unknown:yeah, both have their routines, they’re working routines. They
Unknown:might have a little bit of a weekend routine there. Maybe
Unknown:they share friends, maybe they’ll keep the friends
Unknown:separate.
Unknown:And they’re starting to feel stuck, or one of the two is
Unknown:starting to feel stuck. So what would be an example for a person
Unknown:who feels stuck in a relationship? Well, chances are,
Unknown:that you chose your partner for the wrong reasons. It shows your
Unknown:partner because you guys share similar problems, you guys share
Unknown:similar pain, you guys share that you don’t like to be alone.
Unknown:You guys share that. We all have physical needs, and you just
Unknown:happen to be able to get your physical needs done with each
Unknown:other. But there’s no real passion, there’s no real love
Unknown:there. There’s no real understanding and supporting of
Unknown:each other. It is kind of like a contract. And he lived together
Unknown:because you got used to each other. And that’s really it. And
Unknown:to leave that person is going to be too painful because you share
Unknown:so much, yet so little. But enough to make it very, very
Unknown:uncomfortable to separate. So you still decide to stay in that
Unknown:relationship and feel stuck. Is there a chance to revive if that
Unknown:words exist in English. That relationship, I’m sure there’s
Unknown:options like you can totally have an attitude shift. If you
Unknown:both want it, but you have to want it 100% if it’s just one
Unknown:person changing their attitude, then it’s quickly going to get
Unknown:boring again and very, very frustrating. Let’s have a look
Unknown:at the COVID confinement. You were a very social person,
Unknown:social butterfly. So to say you had a job that was okay, helps
Unknown:you to pay the bills, and you’re like going and now all of a
Unknown:sudden you’re stuck at home and you’re stuck with your thoughts.
Unknown:You’re stuck with your partner with your kids, maybe even just
Unknown:gonna change my position here and move outside for some fresh
Unknown:air. And yeah, now your thoughts keep racing now. You’re trying
Unknown:to compensate, you try to fill that void with something that
Unknown:feels kind of good. So you’re not flexing, you’re maybe eating
Unknown:a little more, maybe you start exercising, get really good at
Unknown:exercising. But it’s really, really annoying for you that you
Unknown:can’t go back to your social life and what you had before.
Unknown:And there again, it is the mind that drives you crazy because if
Unknown:you were living from the heart, you’d be okay with yourself. You
Unknown:would come up with creative stuff that makes you feel good
Unknown:and helps others to maybe you would be able to create stuff
Unknown:that makes you feel purposeful and supports others at the same
Unknown:time. You wouldn’t be stuck in that thought pattern and that
Unknown:frustrated of not being able to follow your daily life, how it
Unknown:was before COVID I watched puppy a couple of weeks ago, a very,
Unknown:very good movie on Netflix, a prison, prison life movie, so to
Unknown:say. And it really, really made it so crystal clear for me that
Unknown:if you manage to stay sane in your mind, if you manage to keep
Unknown:yourself occupied and good with yourself and make meaningful
Unknown:connections, then you can get through such harsh environment
Unknown:situations. And I think COVID was perfect, perfect thing for
Unknown:all of us to learn to be good with ourselves and to rethink
Unknown:our lives and to reflect about our decision making. And to be
Unknown:careful with our partners. Like before, we were maybe even kind
Unknown:of avoiding each other. And now you’re stuck with a person in
Unknown:one house or one apartment. And you have to get along, you can’t
Unknown:just have a fight and then let it sit there, you have to
Unknown:resolve it right away because you live together and you want
Unknown:to have a good life. So maybe I drifted off a little bit here.
Unknown:But I think you got my point when you live from the heart,
Unknown:then it is less likely to feel bored and stuck. Because you
Unknown:will always feel stimulated and good, you will always have
Unknown:something to do and something to be excited about. When you live
Unknown:from the head from the ego from your monkey mind. It will come
Unknown:up with boredom, it will come up with very, very shitty decision
Unknown:making, that you will regret one day just for the short term
Unknown:excitement and distraction. So what I want to do here with my
Unknown:blood podcast is to bring you back to your heart to live from
Unknown:the heart. So that if ever there’s another COVID or
Unknown:something similar or something else very annoying, that you’re
Unknown:ready and more resilient. Thank you so much for listening to the
Unknown:Borealis experience. I’m your host Aurora. And I’m very happy
Unknown:to announce that I have a little website going right now. I
Unknown:published it today. You can check it out on www the Borealis
Unknown:experience.com and there’s even a little Donate button. So if
Unknown:you feel like buying me a coffee, then don’t hold back.
Unknown:The money will go into my next website project you for you to
Unknown:create videos and yeah, have a platform where you can send in
Unknown:requests or interact with me. Alright, take good care of
Unknown:yourself. I’ll be out there for you tomorrow.
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