Aurora Eggert Coaching

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I’m

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your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

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journey called life.

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Ah, I’m so excited to be recording this episode,

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I’m so excited to connect with you. And hopefully I’m creating

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something that brings you value that on one level or another in

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one way or another helps you to connect back to yourself and to

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find ways to live your most authentic life that you could

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possibly dream off. Today, I want to talk about your

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advisors. The people that you have in your life that you seek

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advice from, that you look up to, that are role models, that

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are people in your life that helped you in the past, find

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your ways. And sometimes it’s family members, sometimes it’s

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friends, sometimes it’s professionals. And what I’m

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learning right now is that sometimes we are so lost,

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sometimes we are so desperate to find a path to feel clearer to

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know what is going to happen in our life and where we’re going

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to end up that we seek advice from people who on the surface

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seem very competent. And two in the past helped you greatly. But

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maybe in other instances, they were not good advisors. But you

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couldn’t see that because you were so lost and desperate that

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you just wanted any kind of advice from outside. Because you

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felt that anything could help you get unstuck and feel found

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again. I’m going to give you a little example right now. So I

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just got engaged recently, which is very big and very exciting

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for me. And my mom, back then didn’t really have a wedding

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celebration, she only signed papers with my dad. And that was

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it. And my grandma had a wedding celebration that she doesn’t

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like to look back to it was a weird wedding in a backyard even

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in a garage. And it was I don’t know, she felt very weird on

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that day. And so now that I got engaged, they started talking

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about wedding and celebrations and wedding dress. And people

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who know me know that I was never the kind of girl who

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dreamt up anything about weddings, wedding dresses. I’m

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pretty Yeah. Neutral about it, I want to say. And now that I’m

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engaged, I’m feeling excited. And so I started talking with

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them about possible celebration and wanting to choose my wedding

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dress with them. And my grandma took me aside yesterday and told

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me that, yeah, the world is going through a recession. And

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my mum didn’t have a proper wedding. She didn’t have a

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proper wedding. So she really hopes that I’m not going to get

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too excited about a beautiful dress and celebration, because

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this is not what life is about. And that was it. We left and

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later on coming back home. I told my soon to be husband, my

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fiance about this and he got so mad and I couldn’t really

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understand why. And he just said, Yeah, well, they had their

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experience and they will be advising you in their ways what

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feels best for them. But maybe that’s not best for you, maybe

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you want something else. And maybe you can find ways that you

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get to express yourself in a way that is most authentic to you.

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And not according to some other people’s plans, even though it’s

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your family. So from that experience I want to share with

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you and make you aware that sometimes you will be asking for

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advice, you will have people sharing their opinion with you.

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And you will put yourself in a position of I don’t want to say

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victim, but a position of desperation where you seek

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advice, and you will take it and you will drink it like a magic

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potion. But maybe there’s a little bit of poison in there,

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maybe there’s a little bit of jealousy in there, maybe there’s

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a big chunk of limiting beliefs in there that you then swallow

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in from another person. And if you make and base your decisions

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on those advisors, and mentors, you will end up in a place in

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your life. That will not feel like you that will make you feel

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very limited and small. Because of course, the limiting beliefs

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of other people are not yours. So sometimes we have to be brave

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enough to sit in discomfort to sit in not knowing and

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uncertainty. And to really go within to allow silence, to feel

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yourself to experience yourself and from that space. Make

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decisions that are most authentic to you. And you got to

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strengthen that muscle because you will have people very close

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to your heart, giving you advice that is not good for you at all.

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And it is not that they are mean tempered, ill tempered or, you

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know, don’t want the best for you. They want the best for you.

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But sometimes what they think what is the best for you is not

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the best for you. And this is so extremely tricky, especially

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when you’re close to these people.

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So

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whatever it is you seek advice on, is it career, is it

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relationship? Is it marriage, is it you know, big life changes

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that you want to make in the future. Always be aware that

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people have their own limiting beliefs, they have their own

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agenda. And they will give you advice from their space of

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knowledge. There’s very few people out there who have big

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empathy and big knowledge and give advice for free. That is

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then serving you 100% and helping you grow. And sometimes

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you got to ask several people and have several opinions, but

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it is always, always always important. To go within and to

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really dig deep and find out who you are. What makes you you what

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is the life that you want to create for yourself. And

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especially if it is different to the life that your parents or

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caregivers lead. You have to seek advice from people who are

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leading that life already who have done the steps and when you

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seek advice from them, also be critical. Don’t just step into

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their foot prints because you are not them. But you can listen

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to their advice to their opinion. And counter check like

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check. If it resonates with your soul with your inner truth.

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Nobody except you knows what is best for you. Nobody knows you

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Tension, sometimes you don’t even know your own potential.

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This is why I’m so, so, so passionate to help people get to

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know themselves. Because it is from that space that you’re

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going to make decisions that are good for you. And it is from

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that space that you will find courage enough to distance

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yourself from people that you desperately want to be in a

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relationship with. But that don’t help you when it comes to

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your personal growth. You might feel very lonely at times when

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you start making decisions that are not in alignment with those

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old people, so to say anymore. But if you want to lead a happy

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life, I live true to yourself, you will have to bring up some

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courage. All right, I’m going to leave you with that. I love you

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so much. I care so much about your well being and hope that

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you always know that there’s somebody out there, willing to

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listen to you and wanting to connect with you. You’re not

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alone. And I will be out there on a more consistent basis

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again, and I’m very excited to show up for you. And for my

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little podcast here. So until then, take really good care if

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there’s any questions, any remarks, any comments, feel free

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podcast. It means the world to me. And if I was able to bring

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you value insights and reflection, then that wouldn’t

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be the greatest gift. Thank you so much. Until next time,