Aurora Eggert Coaching

Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I’m

your host Aurora. And if you want to find a place where you

can rest and relax, unwind from a busy day, and recharge your

batteries, this is the perfect place for you. Today I want to

talk about attractiveness. The other day I started a poll on

Facebook, where I asked you guys how attractive you feel. And I

was shocked.

Only 60% of

the people who replied feel attractive and 40% feel

unattractive, even ugly. And then I look at the pictures, and

I can’t see anything wrong. And I know most of the people who

said they feel unattractive. So I feel a deep urge now today to

post an episode for you guys for when you feel unattractive.

Please, if you are not connected with me on Facebook, add me My

name is Aurora Eggert or join the Facebook group. That’s a

good idea to warriors among us. And there you can request

episodes from me like my friends to already and I can Yeah, fine

tune the episodes for your needs a little better. So let’s talk

about attractiveness. What is attractiveness? I think

attractiveness is so subjective. And sometimes we get too caught

up in ideals In comparison, we compare ourselves to people and

only see the very best part of them, and don’t really see their

flaws, right, we put others on a pedestal and make ourselves

small. And that is very, very wrong to do because in doing so,

your self esteem just gets smaller and smaller and you feel

the need to hide more and more. And less and less people will

know about you and know that you’re out there and available

and lovable. So this episode is so dear to my heart, because for

the longest time, I felt very unattractive and not lovable at

all. And I will share with you some hacks. And hopefully, right

after this episode, you can feel empowered again and good about

yourself. So just know that this episode is more for guys and for

girls. So let’s start. Just know that girls don’t judge guys by

the same measures, then guys, Judge girls, so a woman wants to

feel safe, and wants to feel attractive. A woman wants to

feel that you’re interested in her. Most of all, of course,

physical attractiveness is always important. But know that

to make a woman feel safe. If you have a couple extra pounds,

it just makes you feel even or makes you look even more like

someone who can protect you. And if it’s too many pounds, if you

think you’re really overweight, then there’s people out there

too, who are attracted to that, I feel that for everything. For

every person, there is a counterpart. And you have to be

okay with what you have, and even proud with what you have,

and not be scared that he will be rejected with what you got to

offer. Because on a very deep level people choose their

partners by scent, the scent of your body and by how you make

them feel. And if you feel that you are a little overweight or

too skinny, then that is one thing but the other big thing is

how do you make that person feel when you are in her presence, or

his presence. Of course we’re not talking just straight people

here. So a woman will have a look at your eyes at your face

at your hands, your four arms. And I’m pretty sure tonight if

you look into the mirror, you can find at least one or two

things that are super attractive and that no other human being

has on that planet Earth. So you cannot To judge yourself only by

your physical appearance, and just know that other people will

judge you by totally different measures. So why not, start

accepting yourself and be good with yourself, and drop all that

bullshit. And waste that time that precious time and accept

yourself right now where you’re at. When it comes to body

weight, I learned a very, very important thing.

Namely, that your body is a perfect mirror of how you feel

inside. So how he looked from the outside is a perfect

reflection of how you feel inside. And when it comes to

weight gain when it comes to obesity. Your body is trying to

protect you from something. And can you go back to that point in

your life where you felt threatened where you felt

scared, where you felt you needed an extra layer of

protection? Can you go back to that point? Or is it too far

back. And then another thing is, how were you conditioned when it

comes to food. One big exam example is you had your mother,

closest friend, really good relationship, and your dad was

maybe more away and working hard and not really present in your

life. And every time you had a night off time with your mom,

you guys decided to watch a movie and open a can of pub and

eat chips and gummy bears. And you do that every time you

connect with your mom on a deeper level. And when you feel

deep comfort. So now that you moved out and live by yourself,

of course, every time you feel stressed out or you need

comfort, your brain, your emotional body, your your

internal compass, let’s say will drive you to the fridge and let

you grab that pop, and that chips and the gummy bears. And

you want to watch a movie because on a very deep level, it

reminds you of those comforting memories with your mother back

then. And this is just one example you might have been

conditioned very differently when it comes to food. But it

doesn’t matter, it’s still highly influences your

relationship to food nowadays. So if you feel you need to lose

weight if you feel ugly, because you have too much weight on one

thing first, know that there’s people out there who are highly

attracted to more heavier guys, because you guys look like he

can protect us better. And if you are too skinny, if you feel

uncomfortable on your skin, know that there is a girl or a guy

out there who’s super attracted to your body and wants to

connect with you. And he or she doesn’t judge you by the

measures, you judge yourself. And when it comes to weight

gain, there’s also maybe something that happened in your

childhood, where now if your constant fear and your thyroid

and your metabolism is running at a weight too fast of a pace

to burn all your calories at once when you eat, right,

there’s people who can eat and eat and eat and they just don’t

gain weight. They usually have something that is stressing them

out on their hardware. Yeah, not on the superficial level. But on

a very deep level, they might have experienced something that

stresses them out to this day. And that influences their body

to this day. And that’s why they can gain weight. And if there’s

nothing that ever bugged you, and if your body is just a more

skinnier type, then again, please know that there is

someone out there who will be deeply attracted to your

beautiful eyes, your sensitive hands, the tone of your voice,

your scent. There’s so much more than just the image in the

mirror that you see every morning. And with my podcast

here I also want to start and change your relationship to

yourself because I feel a lot of people out there has such an

harsh opinion about their physical appearance, and about

how they feel about themselves or overhaul. And with this

podcast, I want to make you aware of those thought loops

that you engage in on a daily that don’t serve you anymore.

That just make you feel small and shitty about yourself. And

don’t make you want to go out there and get

that girl. Get that date. Get that job. Get that awesome

adventure that you deserve. All right. That was it for today.

Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis experience. I’m

your host Aurora and I care deeply about how you feel and

how you are. I hope I can bring you peace into your life. I hope

you can feel better about yourself after this episode.

Please connect with me over Facebook and send me some more

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