Aurora Eggert Coaching

Hello,

and welcome to the Borealis experience.

I’m your host,

and I’m very happy to be spending some time with you

today. Yeah, it is Sunday, it is icy cold again, yesterday was a

warm day. And I was excited. And today it’s very cold again. So I

picked a topic that is also not very comfortable to talk about

rejection, I think it’s safe to say that we all have felt

rejected at times, it is just part of life that sometimes we

have to deal with it, we have something to offer, and people

choose to ignore it, or walk over it or simply rejected. So

how can we learn to be a little more resilient, some of us are

deeply hurt. When feeling rejected, we feel rejected and

not only rejected, but abandoned, and pushed away and

questioned. And it goes so deep that we question our whole

existence and being and this cannot be, we have to become

more resilient. Now, it’s easier said than done. But it is

possible, trust me, because I’ve been that person. Whenever a

friend canceled on me, I was devastated. I never showed them.

But I would just turn off my phone and crawl into my bed and

be so sad. Until I learned that people operate on very different

levels, people are very different when it comes to

perception and life experiences in general. And I’m a person who

was drilled who was taught to always be very punctual, for

instance, and when someone is late, I see that as disrespect.

And as the person not wanting to connect with me and not

respecting me. And I lived like that, for the longest time, I

was always mad and sad without showing it to the outside world

when somebody was late, until I realized that we’re all so

different. And we are taught very different things. So the

person who might always be late, might be super good at finishing

tasks. You know how some people start a task and never finish

it. But maybe that person learned that that’s important.

punctuality is not too important. But when you start

something, you finish it.

So

I don’t know if that example makes sense. Give me a couple

more minutes here to make sense of it. In case it didn’t make

sense. But I think you got me, we perceive live very

differently. And we always have to give people the benefit of

the doubt. If they don’t like what we have to offer, then they

maybe don’t have the awareness or didn’t have the tools to

understand what we want to put out there. Have a look at my

podcast, for instance. My family knows what I’m doing. And they

ask questions at times. But they’re not really interested

because my content is challenging. And yeah, makes

them look into the mirror. And it creates huge discomfort for

them. So of course they will not totally embrace it or even

rejected because it is not creating comfort for them. And

some people when you create discomfort will reject you. When

you start cutting through the bullshit. They will not want to

hang out with you anymore because you are being

uncomfortable with them. And that’s a reality we all have to

face when we wake up and realize that we’ve been sleeping for so

long and we see people around still sleeping, and we want to

help them wake up. But they don’t want to wake up just yet.

Everybody wants to wake up, but they want to do it at their own

pace. And some people only do that just yeah, before dying on

their deathbed. So, when it comes to rejection, you really

have to be confident with what you have to offer. And you have

to trust that the more you try, the more you go out there and

shine your light, the more you will attract people that are

resonating with what you have to offer, you will also encounter

rejection, but rejection will not hurt you as much anymore,

because you will focus more on the people who resonate with the

content than the people who don’t, you will not take it as

personal anymore. When it comes to romantic relationships, it’s

a little bit different. Because if you get rejected, you might

just not be a match, they might be a match for you from what you

see. But maybe you cannot see into the inside of that person.

And that person is rejecting you from the inside, because you’re

not a match a deep, deep match that is meant to be. So whenever

you get rejected by a romantic partner, just know that it is

not about you. And maybe, yes, it is about you. But it is not

about your worth. You’re not not lovable, it has nothing to do

with that, it maybe has to do with the timing, that it is the

wrong timing, and that the person still has to heal, in

order to connect genuinely. Or maybe it is you who still has to

heal. Sometimes we run around with open wounds, you know, if

we could see the emotional wounds that we carry around, and

people can clearly see them. And they can see that you can

connect with them. But you are still so unaware of your own

pain that you keep feeling rejected. Instead of sitting

down with your pain and healing the wounds, you run around and

want to make those connections. And people keep rejecting

rejecting you, sorry, until you learn your lesson. So what I

want to say here today is the next time you feel rejected or

you are rejected, think of my little episode here and think

about yourself, if you need more healing more time, or have

compassion with the other person. Maybe they need healing,

and more time. And when it comes to job interviews and other

things, then know that

it might not be the perfect match, maybe you still haven’t

found your soul purpose, maybe you still haven’t dug out your

potential. And the jobs you are trying to find in order to not

be unemployed are not matching your purpose. And this is why

you’re being rejected. Not because you’re dumb and useless.

Because you are still not aware of your process of your healing

of your capability, your ability, your value, maybe

you’re still looking for jobs that are you know, minimum wage,

maybe the universe, or whoever you believe in the bigger force

is forcing you to step out and to finally see your value. So

please, next time you feel rejected. Remember this little

episode here that I put out for you and know that you’re

incredibly lovable, and useful and necessary, and so needed out

there. But maybe you’re not aware of your wounds that still

have to be healed. Maybe you’re not fully aware of who you are

in this world. And you have to get to know yourself better.

This is what the Borealis experience podcast is all about.

To connect yourself

back to your heart and your soul. I’m sending my love out

there. I will be out there tomorrow. Again, take good care