Aurora Eggert Coaching

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Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I’m your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. I hope you feel safe, I

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hope you feel comfortable in your skin confident, I hope you

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have a sense of purpose, and drive. And if you do not, if

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you’ve had stuck last uncomfortable, unsafe,

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uncertain, I hope I can be a stepping stone on your journey

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and help you to get to know yourself better. Because the

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better you know yourself, the better decisions you get to make

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for yourself. And this in turn will affect all the people

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around you and our society. And I feel we need to as a whole

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work on our relaxed resilience sorry. And become stronger as a

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whole as a society and more resilient to stress and outside

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disturbances we have to come back home and take care of

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ourselves. And once we take care of ourselves, we feel a deep

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need to nurture the people around you the environment

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around you the animals around you all creatures around you.

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And this my dear as my vision and this vision is equal to my

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mission to help people become their strongest version 30 Plus

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unmarried. Last, without purpose. I want to talk to all

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people out there who either good freshly divorced or are about to

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leave a relationship that is super toxic, or singles who are

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still searching and looking for the one person that can become

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their mate. You might feel stuck, do you might feel lost.

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You might feel you don’t really have a place in society, you

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might feel extremely useless. You don’t know what you’re doing

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here and you sure know that you are not part of the mass. You

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know everybody who gets married and then they build a house and

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then they have kids and then they have front yard and a back

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yard and two dogs. Their children start going to school

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and you feel you don’t belong to that stream. Either because your

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partner is not the right fit. Or you haven’t found the partner or

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the partner you once had.

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Left you or you left them and now it’s just you again with a

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huge chunk of pain in your chest. It is a weird feeling

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when going to social gatherings and maybe you’re even avoiding

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them. Especially when you know that there’s couples there who

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are happy and living the life you wish they had.

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And every time somebody asks you how you are you say yeah, I’m

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fine. I’m fine. I’m fine. I pursue my hobbies, I feel free.

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Yet, that’s not at all how you feel. But you know exactly the

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moment you would say. Actually, I’m not fine. Actually. I’m

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struggling actually I feel terribly lonely. Actually, I

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feel desperate to find a partner. You would have to face

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your music. Also, you don’t know what kind of reaction you would

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receive from the people that all of a sudden you don’t say sorry.

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Iron anymore, but you open up how you really feel. Right? As

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soon as you speak it out,

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you kind of will be held accountable, or you feel totally

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pathetic. Because that person feels like oh my god, that

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person just share too much information about herself

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himself. So there’s a little bit of fear of rejection as well,

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when we think about being brutally honest with the people

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around us. No, I’m not fine. I’m not fine at all, I’m struggling.

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I also want to address the that intimacy like fear of intimacy,

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part that could play a role in your life. Because what I

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noticed is, sometimes we are single, and we feel there’s

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nobody around us who could be interested in us, or us

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interested in them. And we don’t see that we still got a little

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bit of homework to do before we put ourselves out there. So I

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usually invite people to share with me the conclusions that

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they have made about themselves after the last heartbreak,

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right, when you are 30? Plus, chances are that you had a crush

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on somebody at some point. Or you were in a relationship, and

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for some reason it fell apart. Why did it fall apart?

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And to find out if you take ownership? Or if you only blame

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the other person? And to look at you with the kindness eyes? And

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to find out?

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What are the lessons you’ve learned about yourself? And how

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open are you today to receive a new person into your life

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because sometimes we cling on to our past pain so desperately

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because we identify with that pain, that it is so big, that

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we’re not even able to make space for a new person, yet we

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learn so much to have a new person in our life, but there is

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no space, the whole space next to us around us as being taken

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by our pain. Maybe you are a grieving loss. Maybe you lost a

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dad, a mom, a person that you were very close to, to death.

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And that pain is so enormous that you cannot even imagine

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being happy again. Because that would mean that you don’t love

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that person that passed anymore. Which is which is not true. We

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can learn to reframe these conclusions that you have made

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at some point in your life. And we have to revisit them and see

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do these believes serve you? Really, your mom is alone now.

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Her partner passed or she was left. And now you feel

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responsible for her happiness. So you cannot have your own

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happiness because that would mean to some degree that you

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abandon your mother. Is that fair to your life? Yet something

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like that we don’t see. We don’t see how we sabotage and

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manipulate ourselves out of beautiful situations to serve

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another person to serve an old believe. I hope I’m making sense

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here. I hope I can make you reflect and see that there’s so

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much that you can do in order to get ready to receive a partner.

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For you to see that there is somebody out there because

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sometimes we run around with you know, blindfolded eyes and like

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yeah, there’s nobody Where Have All the good good men gone where

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have all the good women Gone. Gone to. i There is nobody out

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there for me. Yes, there is. There’s tons of people out there

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But you haven’t been working on your readiness, you haven’t

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faced your own music, you haven’t faced your stuff that

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you carry around with you. And that stuff is like a plexiglass

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window window that you look through. And doesn’t allow you

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to see the people that would be ready for you. You know, some

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people lose their spouse to death, or they are being left,

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and they still have the house full of pictures with them. They

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have lots of souvenirs, they have lots of things in their

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space that take up space for a new person. Get they don’t see

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it, yes, you love that person, but you got to let go of it. If

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you want to invite a new person into this life, if you want to

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cling on to that person that is not in your life anymore. With

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all you have, then that’s fine, too. I will not judge you for

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that. But please don’t complain, then that nobody wants to be

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close to you. Because they can sense that you have no emotional

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space for them. Same goes for your parents, if they went

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through a divorce, or again, if if your parent lost a spouse,

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and you feel that if you were happy with a partner, you would

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hurt your parents, you would invalidate their pain. And those

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are the beliefs that we have to weed through. Because those are

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the beliefs that make you push people away that want to be

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close to you.

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You are so precious and needed in our society. And I hope you

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know that.

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You might not have kids, you might not have a partner. But if

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you step into your own power and live up to your purpose and let

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go past beliefs and past experiences past pain that is

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holding you back and show up as who you are meant to be on this

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planet earth, then you are serving our communities, way

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more than if you were to swim in the mainstream water and have

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kids and a house and two dogs and a cat and a front yard and a

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backyard because that’s not what it’s about. It if you become a

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mother or a father and feel that this is what you’re meant here

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to do. This is how you contribute to society, then yes,

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it is for you. And then I invite you to take my hand and to take

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up that fight against your old believes all the stuff that is

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holding you back from fulfilling this dream. And if you’re meant

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to create a beautiful business, if you’re meant to start a

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movement, whatever it is that your purpose is going to push

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you to do. Then I want to help you to fulfill that

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you know for me, I’m 37 Now, I do not have children. I’m in a

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loving relationship. And I have a strong sense that I would be a

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good mom. Yet I have tapped into this purpose of serving my

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communities through podcasting and life coaching and helping

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people to fulfill their dreams for me to look behind people’s

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masks. gives me so much joy and to help them grow beyond their

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limits. Makes me feel so alive. To know that I can be a stepping

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stone for other people and for now I feel if I had a child I

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would lose that And maybe that is totally wrong, maybe I can

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have both. So me right now I’m also working through this,

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right? I’m never, never, never above you. I’m always next to

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you. And it is so worth it to revisit beliefs that we have and

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ask ourselves over and over again. Is this true? Is this

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still true? Is the one thing excluding me from doing the

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other thing. You got to be a detective, you got to be curious

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about yourself. You can’t just run around and look at other

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people and see, oh my god, this is all they have. And they look

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so happy and on Instagram and on Facebook, blah, blah, blah, it’s

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gonna make you feel smaller and smaller and smaller. And if you

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go within, if you look at yourself and revisit beliefs

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that you have start decluttering and wading through stuff that is

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holding you back. You will be able to find who you’re meant to

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be. And liberate yourself from those mad mainstream thoughts

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that are preventing you from showing up as the person you’re

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meant to be. And again, we need you out there we need you in

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your most authentic strongest light shining. And if you keep

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dimming your lights because you think you’re not living up to

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our expectations, you’re not only doing yourself a disservice

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you’re doing us a disservice to service to the work go within

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revisit the experiences that made you conclude that you’re

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not worthy I’m going to leave you with that with all my love

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with all my care. As always, you can reach out on Facebook and

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shoot me question shoot me episode request or if you want

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to start your journey towards yourself, if you want to invite

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me in and let me help you. Shoot me a visit and pay me a visit

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mnt on Aurora Eggert coaching and we’ll go from there. And I’m

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very positive that if you’re listening to my podcast here,

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then you have that growth mindset. And you want to be your

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strongest self you want to let go of stuff. So allow alone for

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this. I’m so incredibly proud of you. I respect you so much.

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Because you’re leaving your comfort zone and want to know

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what you’re all about. All right. Take care of yourself.

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And I will be out there very soon.