Ep. 22 The BLACK SHEEP of the family!

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Do you identify as the black sheep of your family ?

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Transcript
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Hello, This episode is inspired by Mark, we had a quick

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chat on facebook, and he inspired me to make an episode

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about the black sheep in the family. Thank you, Mark. Here we

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go.

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I’m your

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host Aurora, and I’m very happy to be spending some time with

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you today. It is Sunday, April 11. fresh snow out here. But

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it’s sunny and I know the snow is gonna melt here very soon.

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All right, let’s dive into today’s topic, black sheep, the

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black sheep of the family. Do you know that term that

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expression? Can you maybe even resonate with it? Have you been

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living as a black sheep and your family for the

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for the last couple years? Well, then welcome this episode is for

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you.

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What is a black sheep I feel a black sheep is a person who is

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living on a different level of awareness than the rest of the

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family. They usually feel like they don’t really fit in. They

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feel like everybody else is kind of flocking together, agreeing

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with each other’s opinions and lifestyles. But the black sheep

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experiences live differently, maybe on a deeper level, maybe

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on a very different level. And as a child, if you feel that

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it’s a very painful experience, a very painful situation to be

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in because all we want us to be long and to feel understood and

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to be part of a bigger group. Right. And if you sense that,

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you have to kind of fake it, you have to put so much effort into

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it. In order to feel accepted in order to feel understood and

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heard, then it is a painful experience you’re making. And it

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is your experience. And it’s very difficult to explain to

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others. Those children are usually labeled with ADHD, or

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they’re difficult to handle. Or they have to be sent to boarding

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school because they’re so

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energetic, and they have to be away from the family in order to

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find themselves. So as you can see, as you can listen or hear

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those people who feel like the black sheep of the family go

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through very

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painful, emotional experiences early on in their lives. And it

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shapes the way they feel about themselves and how confident

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they are.

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It’s very

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complicated to feel like you don’t really have anybody to

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look up to and the people you live with you love but you can

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really relate on deeper levels. Sometimes you also feel like the

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stick in their steering wheel or in their wheels. I know you you

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know what I mean? You kind of like to steer up shit, you’d

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like to make people aware of their behavior. And then they

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flock together even more and then you feel even more

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isolated. I feel a lot of times the black sheep is the one who

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cuts through the bullshit. The person who sees manipulative and

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destructive

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behavior and calls people out. And they live so much in their

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little world in their little bubble of codependency and abuse

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is normal life that you feel even crazier about yourself, and

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they make you feel crazy. But today I want to tell you what

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is important to see on the other side, when you’re with yourself.

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You are breaking out of the family’s patterns. So to say you

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are a pioneer. You got to bring your family to a different level

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of awareness and you will open up a new world to them and you

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don’t need them to be an approval. You don’t need them.

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To be okay with your decisions, you make them for yourself and

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for your family, maybe you want to start one day, or your

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community. That’s also a very hard reality to face that you

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are one who will early on realize shit, I can’t wait for

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my family’s approval. Otherwise, I’m gonna get nowhere with my

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life. Yeah, it’s

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very difficult and painful to realize you make one step into

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the direction that feels good for you that feels like you can

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go in a direction of expansion. And your family is like, No, no,

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no, no, no, this is not gonna go well. And this is not awesome.

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And we don’t want you to do this. And then you don’t have to

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deal with your own insecurities, but with their limiting beliefs

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on top of it, too. But I tell you what it is so worth it, and

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you will go your path. And with the intention to serve other

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people to do good out there, nothing can go wrong, you can be

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wrong. If you choose a path of love and compassion for other

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people, it might not resonate with your family’s values. But

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that’s totally fine. This is evolution, you’re stepping out

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of that frame, and you’re creating something new. And one

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day maybe, but don’t wait for it, they might look at you and

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amazement and be so proud of you. And it might take some

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time, it might take them to see that other people are praising

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you and lifting you up. And then they will follow and be like,

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Oh, yeah, this is my son, this is my daughter reraised them and

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we’re so proud of them. But it might take some time, as I say,

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and you can’t wait for it. So if you identify as the black sheep

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of your family, have compassion with them, have the big heart

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and see that they’re only operating in their frame of

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believes and values. And they’re doing fine. But you don’t have

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to sit in that same pool, you can go out there, discover new

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things, and make this world a better place. And

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maybe you feel good and calling yourself a black sheep, but I

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feel it’s it’s more of a negative

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label. So maybe you can see yourself as the unicorn or the

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butterfly or the pioneer

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of the family. And then you will feel better about yourself too.

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And then feeling better with yourself again, and making peace

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with that painful situation that you made early on with your

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family, you can make peace with them too, you can see that their

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limiting beliefs are okay and they protected you or inspired

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you maybe to some point early on. And don’t judge them. Don’t

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attack them, don’t blame them because you are responsible for

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the steps you take. And you don’t need to wait for their

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approval. And again, if your intentions are to do good out

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there, they have no reasons to hold back. And there might be a

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little bit of a time of separation between you and them

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for a while. But you guys can come back together. And we can

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show empathy and a big heart for them and reunite with them. But

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go your path. Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis

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experience. This episode was extremely important to me and my

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heart and my soul. Because I’ve been on that path. And I was

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able to liberate myself and feel like a little unicorn now or a

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butterfly or a pioneer. And I feel my family is coming around

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a little bit and show that they are a little proud of me.

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They’re not 100% there, they still don’t 100% understand what

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I’m doing here. But it is fine. I know I’m doing good. I knew no

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I’m putting

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vibes out there that help other people that inspire other

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people. And this is all I want. So take really good care of

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yourself and think about this labor of a black sheep and maybe

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reframe your attitude around it and know that you’re not a

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victim. You are needed out here. We need to see out there and

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playing and shining and everything will be fine. Maybe

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not right away but soon enough

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