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Transcript
Hello, This episode is inspired by Mark, we had a quick
Unknown:chat on facebook, and he inspired me to make an episode
Unknown:about the black sheep in the family. Thank you, Mark. Here we
Unknown:go.
Unknown:Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I’m your
Unknown:host Aurora, and I’m very happy to be spending some time with
Unknown:you today. It is Sunday, April 11. fresh snow out here. But
Unknown:it’s sunny and I know the snow is gonna melt here very soon.
Unknown:All right, let’s dive into today’s topic, black sheep, the
Unknown:black sheep of the family. Do you know that term that
Unknown:expression? Can you maybe even resonate with it? Have you been
Unknown:living as a black sheep and your family for the
Unknown:for the last couple years? Well, then welcome this episode is for
Unknown:you.
Unknown:What is a black sheep I feel a black sheep is a person who is
Unknown:living on a different level of awareness than the rest of the
Unknown:family. They usually feel like they don’t really fit in. They
Unknown:feel like everybody else is kind of flocking together, agreeing
Unknown:with each other’s opinions and lifestyles. But the black sheep
Unknown:experiences live differently, maybe on a deeper level, maybe
Unknown:on a very different level. And as a child, if you feel that
Unknown:it’s a very painful experience, a very painful situation to be
Unknown:in because all we want us to be long and to feel understood and
Unknown:to be part of a bigger group. Right. And if you sense that,
Unknown:you have to kind of fake it, you have to put so much effort into
Unknown:it. In order to feel accepted in order to feel understood and
Unknown:heard, then it is a painful experience you’re making. And it
Unknown:is your experience. And it’s very difficult to explain to
Unknown:others. Those children are usually labeled with ADHD, or
Unknown:they’re difficult to handle. Or they have to be sent to boarding
Unknown:school because they’re so
Unknown:energetic, and they have to be away from the family in order to
Unknown:find themselves. So as you can see, as you can listen or hear
Unknown:those people who feel like the black sheep of the family go
Unknown:through very
Unknown:painful, emotional experiences early on in their lives. And it
Unknown:shapes the way they feel about themselves and how confident
Unknown:they are.
Unknown:It’s very
Unknown:complicated to feel like you don’t really have anybody to
Unknown:look up to and the people you live with you love but you can
Unknown:really relate on deeper levels. Sometimes you also feel like the
Unknown:stick in their steering wheel or in their wheels. I know you you
Unknown:know what I mean? You kind of like to steer up shit, you’d
Unknown:like to make people aware of their behavior. And then they
Unknown:flock together even more and then you feel even more
Unknown:isolated. I feel a lot of times the black sheep is the one who
Unknown:cuts through the bullshit. The person who sees manipulative and
Unknown:destructive
Unknown:behavior and calls people out. And they live so much in their
Unknown:little world in their little bubble of codependency and abuse
Unknown:is normal life that you feel even crazier about yourself, and
Unknown:they make you feel crazy. But today I want to tell you what
Unknown:is important to see on the other side, when you’re with yourself.
Unknown:You are breaking out of the family’s patterns. So to say you
Unknown:are a pioneer. You got to bring your family to a different level
Unknown:of awareness and you will open up a new world to them and you
Unknown:don’t need them to be an approval. You don’t need them.
Unknown:To be okay with your decisions, you make them for yourself and
Unknown:for your family, maybe you want to start one day, or your
Unknown:community. That’s also a very hard reality to face that you
Unknown:are one who will early on realize shit, I can’t wait for
Unknown:my family’s approval. Otherwise, I’m gonna get nowhere with my
Unknown:life. Yeah, it’s
Unknown:very difficult and painful to realize you make one step into
Unknown:the direction that feels good for you that feels like you can
Unknown:go in a direction of expansion. And your family is like, No, no,
Unknown:no, no, no, this is not gonna go well. And this is not awesome.
Unknown:And we don’t want you to do this. And then you don’t have to
Unknown:deal with your own insecurities, but with their limiting beliefs
Unknown:on top of it, too. But I tell you what it is so worth it, and
Unknown:you will go your path. And with the intention to serve other
Unknown:people to do good out there, nothing can go wrong, you can be
Unknown:wrong. If you choose a path of love and compassion for other
Unknown:people, it might not resonate with your family’s values. But
Unknown:that’s totally fine. This is evolution, you’re stepping out
Unknown:of that frame, and you’re creating something new. And one
Unknown:day maybe, but don’t wait for it, they might look at you and
Unknown:amazement and be so proud of you. And it might take some
Unknown:time, it might take them to see that other people are praising
Unknown:you and lifting you up. And then they will follow and be like,
Unknown:Oh, yeah, this is my son, this is my daughter reraised them and
Unknown:we’re so proud of them. But it might take some time, as I say,
Unknown:and you can’t wait for it. So if you identify as the black sheep
Unknown:of your family, have compassion with them, have the big heart
Unknown:and see that they’re only operating in their frame of
Unknown:believes and values. And they’re doing fine. But you don’t have
Unknown:to sit in that same pool, you can go out there, discover new
Unknown:things, and make this world a better place. And
Unknown:maybe you feel good and calling yourself a black sheep, but I
Unknown:feel it’s it’s more of a negative
Unknown:label. So maybe you can see yourself as the unicorn or the
Unknown:butterfly or the pioneer
Unknown:of the family. And then you will feel better about yourself too.
Unknown:And then feeling better with yourself again, and making peace
Unknown:with that painful situation that you made early on with your
Unknown:family, you can make peace with them too, you can see that their
Unknown:limiting beliefs are okay and they protected you or inspired
Unknown:you maybe to some point early on. And don’t judge them. Don’t
Unknown:attack them, don’t blame them because you are responsible for
Unknown:the steps you take. And you don’t need to wait for their
Unknown:approval. And again, if your intentions are to do good out
Unknown:there, they have no reasons to hold back. And there might be a
Unknown:little bit of a time of separation between you and them
Unknown:for a while. But you guys can come back together. And we can
Unknown:show empathy and a big heart for them and reunite with them. But
Unknown:go your path. Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis
Unknown:experience. This episode was extremely important to me and my
Unknown:heart and my soul. Because I’ve been on that path. And I was
Unknown:able to liberate myself and feel like a little unicorn now or a
Unknown:butterfly or a pioneer. And I feel my family is coming around
Unknown:a little bit and show that they are a little proud of me.
Unknown:They’re not 100% there, they still don’t 100% understand what
Unknown:I’m doing here. But it is fine. I know I’m doing good. I knew no
Unknown:I’m putting
Unknown:vibes out there that help other people that inspire other
Unknown:people. And this is all I want. So take really good care of
Unknown:yourself and think about this labor of a black sheep and maybe
Unknown:reframe your attitude around it and know that you’re not a
Unknown:victim. You are needed out here. We need to see out there and
Unknown:playing and shining and everything will be fine. Maybe
Unknown:not right away but soon enough
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