Aurora Eggert Coaching

Hello, This episode is inspired by Mark, we had a quick

chat on facebook, and he inspired me to make an episode

about the black sheep in the family. Thank you, Mark. Here we

go.

Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I’m your

host Aurora, and I’m very happy to be spending some time with

you today. It is Sunday, April 11. fresh snow out here. But

it’s sunny and I know the snow is gonna melt here very soon.

All right, let’s dive into today’s topic, black sheep, the

black sheep of the family. Do you know that term that

expression? Can you maybe even resonate with it? Have you been

living as a black sheep and your family for the

for the last couple years? Well, then welcome this episode is for

you.

What is a black sheep I feel a black sheep is a person who is

living on a different level of awareness than the rest of the

family. They usually feel like they don’t really fit in. They

feel like everybody else is kind of flocking together, agreeing

with each other’s opinions and lifestyles. But the black sheep

experiences live differently, maybe on a deeper level, maybe

on a very different level. And as a child, if you feel that

it’s a very painful experience, a very painful situation to be

in because all we want us to be long and to feel understood and

to be part of a bigger group. Right. And if you sense that,

you have to kind of fake it, you have to put so much effort into

it. In order to feel accepted in order to feel understood and

heard, then it is a painful experience you’re making. And it

is your experience. And it’s very difficult to explain to

others. Those children are usually labeled with ADHD, or

they’re difficult to handle. Or they have to be sent to boarding

school because they’re so

energetic, and they have to be away from the family in order to

find themselves. So as you can see, as you can listen or hear

those people who feel like the black sheep of the family go

through very

painful, emotional experiences early on in their lives. And it

shapes the way they feel about themselves and how confident

they are.

It’s very

complicated to feel like you don’t really have anybody to

look up to and the people you live with you love but you can

really relate on deeper levels. Sometimes you also feel like the

stick in their steering wheel or in their wheels. I know you you

know what I mean? You kind of like to steer up shit, you’d

like to make people aware of their behavior. And then they

flock together even more and then you feel even more

isolated. I feel a lot of times the black sheep is the one who

cuts through the bullshit. The person who sees manipulative and

destructive

behavior and calls people out. And they live so much in their

little world in their little bubble of codependency and abuse

is normal life that you feel even crazier about yourself, and

they make you feel crazy. But today I want to tell you what

is important to see on the other side, when you’re with yourself.

You are breaking out of the family’s patterns. So to say you

are a pioneer. You got to bring your family to a different level

of awareness and you will open up a new world to them and you

don’t need them to be an approval. You don’t need them.

To be okay with your decisions, you make them for yourself and

for your family, maybe you want to start one day, or your

community. That’s also a very hard reality to face that you

are one who will early on realize shit, I can’t wait for

my family’s approval. Otherwise, I’m gonna get nowhere with my

life. Yeah, it’s

very difficult and painful to realize you make one step into

the direction that feels good for you that feels like you can

go in a direction of expansion. And your family is like, No, no,

no, no, no, this is not gonna go well. And this is not awesome.

And we don’t want you to do this. And then you don’t have to

deal with your own insecurities, but with their limiting beliefs

on top of it, too. But I tell you what it is so worth it, and

you will go your path. And with the intention to serve other

people to do good out there, nothing can go wrong, you can be

wrong. If you choose a path of love and compassion for other

people, it might not resonate with your family’s values. But

that’s totally fine. This is evolution, you’re stepping out

of that frame, and you’re creating something new. And one

day maybe, but don’t wait for it, they might look at you and

amazement and be so proud of you. And it might take some

time, it might take them to see that other people are praising

you and lifting you up. And then they will follow and be like,

Oh, yeah, this is my son, this is my daughter reraised them and

we’re so proud of them. But it might take some time, as I say,

and you can’t wait for it. So if you identify as the black sheep

of your family, have compassion with them, have the big heart

and see that they’re only operating in their frame of

believes and values. And they’re doing fine. But you don’t have

to sit in that same pool, you can go out there, discover new

things, and make this world a better place. And

maybe you feel good and calling yourself a black sheep, but I

feel it’s it’s more of a negative

label. So maybe you can see yourself as the unicorn or the

butterfly or the pioneer

of the family. And then you will feel better about yourself too.

And then feeling better with yourself again, and making peace

with that painful situation that you made early on with your

family, you can make peace with them too, you can see that their

limiting beliefs are okay and they protected you or inspired

you maybe to some point early on. And don’t judge them. Don’t

attack them, don’t blame them because you are responsible for

the steps you take. And you don’t need to wait for their

approval. And again, if your intentions are to do good out

there, they have no reasons to hold back. And there might be a

little bit of a time of separation between you and them

for a while. But you guys can come back together. And we can

show empathy and a big heart for them and reunite with them. But

go your path. Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis

experience. This episode was extremely important to me and my

heart and my soul. Because I’ve been on that path. And I was

able to liberate myself and feel like a little unicorn now or a

butterfly or a pioneer. And I feel my family is coming around

a little bit and show that they are a little proud of me.

They’re not 100% there, they still don’t 100% understand what

I’m doing here. But it is fine. I know I’m doing good. I knew no

I’m putting

vibes out there that help other people that inspire other

people. And this is all I want. So take really good care of

yourself and think about this labor of a black sheep and maybe

reframe your attitude around it and know that you’re not a

victim. You are needed out here. We need to see out there and

playing and shining and everything will be fine. Maybe

not right away but soon enough