Aurora Eggert Coaching

Hello, and welcome

to the Borealis experience. I’m your host Aurora, and I’m very

happy to be spending some time with you today. I hope you’re

doing well. Hard as in a warm place, your mind is free and at

peace. And if you feel troubled, if you don’t feel very inspired

at the moment, then I hope I can bring me some inspiration and

motivation until the day

divorce, bankruptcy those are very tough situations to be in.

And I’m sure if you went through it, you didn’t plan

on it. Same goes for feeling depressed, fighting depression,

or struggling with overweight, you didn’t make the conscious

decision to become overweight or depressed. What I want to talk

about today is that those are four very intense situations

that we can all find ourselves in head times are not conscious

decisions that we make. But it is little unconscious steps that

we must have taken in order to find ourselves in those

situations. So I want to encourage you today to feel and

to be 100% responsible for your situation. And I want to provide

you with tools on how you can untangle yourself again in if

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Now,

let’s look at weight gain. Maybe you were a super sporty person

back in the day, maybe you got injured, and then afterwards,

everything was different. Maybe you never were really sporty.

But you never had troubles with your white. And maybe you’ve

always been a little bit overweight, but not to an

unhealthy extent. So where did it all start?

Where did you start losing track? Where did you actions

started become unconscious. And if you have listened to my

podcast in the last couple of months, you know I’m all about

making you reflect making you see things that we might have

been running away from in order to feel safe and better. But

you’re gonna hit a wall at some point that’s going to be

illness, bankruptcy, depression, divorce, if you keep being

unconscious. And this podcast is all about reconnecting with

yourself and knowing yourself. And once you do know yourself,

you will make better decisions, conscious decisions. So when it

comes to weight gain, I’ve just read that wonderful book, the

compound effect, I’m going to put it in the show notes. It is

very important that you track what you put into your body. So

you have a little notebook and you write everything down that

you put into your mouth. I met a baker couple years back and he

was struggling with over weight and he went on a holiday or We

haven’t seen each other in two months and then he comes back

and looked completely different. What had He done, he had put in

a jar, every little bite every little snag every little thing

that he would, in the past unconsciously throw into his

system. So candy, and pretzels, and all kinds of snacks. At the

end of the day, were landing in that

jar.

And that night when he was done with his job in the bakery, he

took that jar back home, and continued putting into that jar,

what he would usually put into his mouth when he got home after

a stressful day. And just before bedtime, he was so discussed, he

was so john, with unconscious eating that from one day to the

other, he was able to change his eating habits, instead of

snacking all day long, he started drinking more.

And he also felt more energetic, drinking more water and snacking

less. So he started feeling like he wanted to go for a walk, or a

little jog after work. And he kept those good little habits

for a good two months. And there was a big change happening not

only on a physical level, but on a mental and emotional level as

well. So I think a lot of times we think, Oh my god, like it

took us so long to get to bankruptcy to the wars, weight

gain, it’s gonna take just as long to get out of this, and

it’s gonna be so painful. But this is just a believe that you

have to get rid of those little baby steps that you can take

from today on can help you so much to make you feel empowered

and good about yourself instantly again, when it comes

to money, what decisions do you make when it comes to money? Do

you have money aside? Do you have money invested? Do you know

how you spend your money on a daily basis. And there again,

it’s very important to track if you want to change something.

Because the awareness of how you spent how you consume is gonna

make you change your behavior already. In this little book,

the compound effect, he talks about how a $4 Coffee consumed

daily will amount to I think it was $50,000 over 20 years. And

yeah, maybe you can say no, yeah, but it’s just three

coffees a week. And it’s not every week. But just think about

those little amounts will add up and will result in a huge sum at

some point.

And is that really how you want to spend your money? Or would

you rather take the 50,000 bucks

and invest them and let them work to make him money. So it’s

just a, like a sod game that I’m doing here with you, you will

pick whatever you want to change in your life and track your

behavior around it. And you will see results within a couple

maybe even days but surely certainly within a couple of

weeks of consciously making decisions around that habit. So

when it comes to money, track everything you spend on how you

spend it. And really think about is that the expense I want to

make? Or because we all keep saying oh yeah, I don’t have

enough money to save. Can I start putting aside five bucks a

week 10 bucks a week and that will compound in one day. You

about changing habits and baby steps. And then at the end of

the day, seeing big results, I had that wonderful interview

with Dr. Q pala Singh here the other day. And he said, it’s not

about making drastic changes from one day to the other. Just

think about sitting in a car behind the steering wheel. And

if you only turn that wheel a little bit to the left, then you

will go to the left side, at some point, it’s not about

abruptly turning the wheel to the left. That’s a dangerous

thing to do. And most people faceplant, when they change

habits to radically, but if you incrementally change your

habits, for the better, you will see big changes in the future.

Same goes with weight loss. And same goes with romantic

relationships. I’m sure you didn’t want that divorce to

happen. I’m sure you didn’t want to fight with your spouse. But

now you’re sitting there and everything went sideways, and

divorce is being filed and depression is kicking in. You

can make conscious decision decisions when it comes to your

relationships, you can track your thoughts and your

intentions you have when you interact with your spouse. Are

you approaching an argument with the intention to resolve and

afterwards nurture your relationship again? Or is it all

about power and being right? Because we all know the sweat is

destroying relationships on a daily is when we cling to our

beliefs, our egos and don’t give the other person any room to

express themselves or be themselves? And then you can

track with your little notepad on what are your thoughts when

you when you look at your spouse, when you think of your

spouse? are you grateful for them? Are you appreciative? And

if not, and if you have it all written down as you’re not

appreciative, you are annoyed, you feel insecure. Things are

bad, then you can start and make little changes, you can start

and focus on what are you grateful for? What is it that

made you fall in love with him or her back then? What is it

that you know you could be better at but you just got lazy?

What is it that you feel could spark your relationship again?

What is it that you want from your partner? And if it is

attention and if it is appreciation, if it is respect,

start being

that partner be the partner you want to have as a partner.

Because wanting something from the other is always very, very

easy and to make the other person feel when not enough.

They’re not doing enough. They’re not invested enough. But

if you really listen to yourself and watch yourself, I want you

to ask yourself, do you really give 100%? Or did you get lazy

over the years. And if you make those little changes, if you

start listening more to your partner, if you start being a

little more curious about how their day was and how their

friends are doing on how they are feeling with the current

situation. You will see how much a relationship can change within

just a couple conversations. Within a couple of weeks or

months, sometimes we get lazy and there’s nothing wrong with

that. It’s all about being aware of it. And then making little

changes again to to get to a better place to be a more in

depth person and to reflect about the things that you have

done wrong, maybe. So, I hope this little episode helped you

to be aware of the things that you can change in the future, to

feel better with yourself to feel more empowered and

encouraged. And I’m so curious to know more about your

thoughts. So you can always leave me a review on Apple

podcast, you can always shoot me a message on Facebook. And

yeah,

I’d be delighted to hear your thoughts. Maybe you have

questions and we can discuss further. Thank you so much for

listening to the Borealis experience. Until next time, bye