Hey there,
A little harsh reality message today 🙂
Mr Nice Guy and Miss Please-Everybody always end up being disappointed or hurt or even rejected, WHY IS THAT ?
Because people can sense that weird vibe from miles away
It’s nice to have person around that does everything and says everything we like to hear but then a change happens and weird expectations come up, resentment maybe even a full on tantrum
A. : WHY are you always taking from me ?!
B. : what ?!
A. : I do everything for you and sacrifice so much and get nothing in return !!!
B. : Well I never really asked of anything !
SMAAAAACKKKKKK
enjoy this juicy truthbomb of an Episode 🙂
cheers
Aurora
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Transcript
Hello and welcome to the Borealis experience,
Unknown:I’m your host Aurora,
Unknown:and yeah, today I’m so excited to be recording an episode
Unknown:again, it’s been a couple weeks feels like a couple months since
Unknown:I’ve recorded an episode for you just one on one, I’ll be doing
Unknown:well. This episode is for you. If you want to grow, if you want
Unknown:to let go of stuff that doesn’t serve you anymore. And if you
Unknown:just want to be more confident with who you are, and reconnect
Unknown:to yourself, and get to know your body better, take better
Unknown:care of yourself. If you appreciate what I’m doing here,
Unknown:please take the couple minutes, if not seconds, to write me a
Unknown:quick review on Apple podcast, it would mean the world to me.
Unknown:It is the currency, the biggest strongest for podcasters. To
Unknown:show appreciation. Today I want to talk about your journey, your
Unknown:story, your belief system, and maybe the unconscious storyline
Unknown:that is dictating your life. You’re not aware that you are in
Unknown:that mode. But you are in this mode. And it keeps attracting
Unknown:situations that you don’t like it keeps distracting you It
Unknown:keeps maybe even destroying relationships. And you’re not
Unknown:even aware of it. So when you go back to season one, I deeply
Unknown:recommend you going back to season one. And check out my
Unknown:episodes on body awareness on your history, your story you
Unknown:tell yourself and everything that Yeah, concerns you. And as
Unknown:important to you. Also season two is very in depth when you
Unknown:want to get to know yourself better. And this episode today,
Unknown:I’m going to try and put everything in that. So that you
Unknown:have like a quick energy boost a quick little reminder of where
Unknown:you can start digging a little deeper where you can start and
Unknown:become a little more curious, in order to be on the right path,
Unknown:your right path. So I want to ask you a question. How much do
Unknown:you feel you need to accomplish something? Do something in order
Unknown:to feel seen and heard? Do you feel you can just be in this
Unknown:world? Just be yourself. Just go about your mission? Or do you
Unknown:feel like you have to be a certain person, you have to do
Unknown:certain certain things, sorry. In order to feel that you have a
Unknown:purpose in order to feel you belong. And then I want to ask
Unknown:you, how much do you like yourself? Do you respect
Unknown:yourself? Do you take really good care of your body? And I
Unknown:don’t mean going to the gym? putting makeup on or nail polish
Unknown:if you’re a girl putting on nice clothing. That’s all very
Unknown:superficial stuff. I mean, do you deeply appreciate your body
Unknown:and accept your body? deeply appreciate that your body is
Unknown:serving you every second of your life without asking much from
Unknown:you. Do you drink enough water deed good food? exercise of
Unknown:course is important. Do you get good sleep? When you take a
Unknown:shower has it just let’s get it done with or did you actually
Unknown:enjoy touching your body non sexually, and again, deeply
Unknown:appreciate
Unknown:your body that is serving you day in and day out. Do you
Unknown:understand your body? Do you understand the language as it is
Unknown:speaking to you, the body is giving you very subtle signals.
Unknown:And if you tend to not listen to them, you become sick. If you
Unknown:tend to not listen to them, you live in discomfort and it can
Unknown:even affect your mental health and make you feel depressed.
Unknown:Just because your body is deficient of something that you
Unknown:chose to ignore. So I invite us all today to check in, do we
Unknown:take care of a body? And in doing so do we take care of our
Unknown:mental health? There’s a storm coming up out there. Mother
Unknown:Nature is supporting my powerful little message here today. This
Unknown:is awesome. When it comes to your relationships, when it
Unknown:comes to your identity, what do you identify with? Is it your
Unknown:relationship to your parents that is still holding you back
Unknown:from doing what you really want to do? Do you still feel like
Unknown:you have to be a people pleaser. And trust me, people pleasing is
Unknown:such a dangerous mode to be in. And I feel when I say dangerous,
Unknown:I’m not exaggerating, because people pleasing is not good for
Unknown:anybody involved. If you are the person who’s trying to please
Unknown:others. You’re constantly running around and trying to
Unknown:extinguish fires that are not yours. Because you don’t feel
Unknown:worthy otherwise you constantly worrying about other people,
Unknown:you’re constantly thinking about what people think about you, and
Unknown:you want to find a place and and doing like in wanting to find a
Unknown:place you just keep being that person who always wants to serve
Unknown:others. And now you could say well, there’s nothing wrong with
Unknown:that I don’t want to be servant or the other people and I want
Unknown:to be kind person compassionate and have empathy and stuff.
Unknown:Yeah, but if you do it out of the wrong reasons, you’re gonna
Unknown:destroy your relationships with people. And you’re not even
Unknown:going to
Unknown:know why.
Unknown:You’re not going to be able to set healthy boundaries, you’re
Unknown:going to be sitting there and expecting stuff from people that
Unknown:they don’t want to give back to you. And it’s just a whole mess
Unknown:that grows on your pile of poop. Sorry to say that clearly. But
Unknown:this is how it is. So if you identify with being a people
Unknown:pleaser, you will keep being disappointed. You will keep
Unknown:feeling drained, you will keep not understanding what is going
Unknown:on with people, they are so selfish. They don’t care about
Unknown:other people. And they’re just taking all the time but never
Unknown:giving back. It is because you give and give and give. And
Unknown:people can sense that you do it out of a lack of self
Unknown:confidence. And like I love to say we’re all just animals. And
Unknown:when we sense low energy activity like this, we want to
Unknown:reject we want to make aware of it, we want to call it out. Or
Unknown:we just cut it out of our lives when it doesn’t serve us anymore
Unknown:or when it’s getting to a point that it’s getting annoying. A
Unknown:person who feels they have to serve others please others on a
Unknown:constant as actually even burning out others because that
Unknown:person at some point will crumble will be so resentful and
Unknown:hateful and accuse other people of never being there for that
Unknown:person that they never asked for the help that was presented to
Unknown:them. So this is a harsh wake up call. For everybody who is
Unknown:trying to save everybody out there, it is not your mission to
Unknown:rescue other people, you can lead and help other people out
Unknown:in, in being a good example of self care. But you don’t need to
Unknown:sacrifice your well being for others. And for some people, it
Unknown:might sound very virtuous, but those people usually get sick or
Unknown:very resentful and hateful towards people. What about your
Unknown:relationship with your parents, as I started out earlier, we are
Unknown:oftentimes born into families that have very different values
Unknown:than ours. And when we are little, we learn that being
Unknown:excluded from family is life threatening. So of course, as a
Unknown:toddler, as a young person, maybe even as a teenager. It is
Unknown:life threatening for you, if you have your own mind your own
Unknown:dreams, that our outside of the box of your family was that a
Unknown:surprise now that you are going to turn into a hardcore rebel,
Unknown:or if you have your rebellion, internally, you will become
Unknown:sick. I don’t think that’s a surprise. Because we’re not
Unknown:born, to please
Unknown:anybody out here in this world. We are born to find our purpose,
Unknown:to live up to our purpose. And to serve Yes, serve other people
Unknown:through our mission. Not because we feel a lack of confidence and
Unknown:a lack of belonging if we don’t serve others know, because we
Unknown:step into our power. And we serve other people, we help
Unknown:other people because of the magical knowledge that we hold.
Unknown:So when you look at your family, maybe you’re born into an
Unknown:intellectual family, but you really want to be that crazy
Unknown:musician who’s spreading joy all over the planet. Maybe you are
Unknown:born into a creative, artistic family. And you want to be an
Unknown:accountant, a banker, an investment broker. There’s
Unknown:nothing bad with that. There’s only something bad with this, if
Unknown:you hold back. And if you think that you need your family’s
Unknown:approval to do whatever pleases your heart, what means following
Unknown:your purpose, and in doing so, helping so many people out
Unknown:there. So, first thing we had your body? Are you taking care
Unknown:of your body? Your mental health comes right after? Are you
Unknown:living your truth? Or are you still trying to please other
Unknown:people out there? Because you don’t feel worthy enough? Are
Unknown:you still too insecure and weak with who you are? To not set
Unknown:boundaries that protect who you are, and show people how to
Unknown:communicate with you and how to treat you? And then the next
Unknown:point was? In what kind of family were you born in? And do
Unknown:you allow yourself to fully
Unknown:express your purpose? And a lot of people will say No, well,
Unknown:Aurora, but I don’t know my purpose. I have that job. That
Unknown:is kind of okay, but not really awesome. And I have a wonderful
Unknown:family who’s supportive and everything. And we get along
Unknown:greatly. Well, maybe you’re not being honest with yourself.
Unknown:Maybe you think that if you were to follow your purpose, you
Unknown:would disappoint your parents or your friends, or whatever. Maybe
Unknown:you don’t allow yourself to see what your purpose is. Because
Unknown:it’s so much easier to see yourself as a little victim of
Unknown:circumstances and to not tap into your power and into your
Unknown:purpose. Because that would create discomfort, temporary
Unknown:disconnection from people that you feel connected right now.
Unknown:And just overall disturbance. Well, this my sweetheart if you
Unknown:decide to sit in that misery, you will become more miserable,
Unknown:and become eventually sick, or even more bitter at the end of
Unknown:the day. So you have to ask yourself, what is holding you
Unknown:back? What are you scared of? What are you resisting to
Unknown:explore? Where do you think you’re going to hit on
Unknown:resistance, that’s where you will have to dig a little
Unknown:deeper, where you don’t want to go. Sometimes the path you don’t
Unknown:want to walk on is the exact path that you should be walking
Unknown:on. Because that means growth. That means breaking out of
Unknown:restricting energies and stuff that is holding you back,
Unknown:setting yourself free, connecting with people who will
Unknown:lift you up even higher, who will support you on your
Unknown:mission, and make you feel real good. And you will realize, I
Unknown:don’t need other people to make me feel real good. Because I
Unknown:love myself and respect myself so much, that now I can only
Unknown:appreciate other people’s approval, but I don’t need it
Unknown:anymore. Because I know I’m doing awesome stuff. For other
Unknown:people out there. If you tap into that energy, of course,
Unknown:you’re going to lose friends who are maybe falling behind and
Unknown:want you to be your old self. But it is okay. It is okay to
Unknown:distance yourself from people who are not walking on your
Unknown:path. And it is okay to reconnect with new people who
Unknown:will be on your new path with you.
Unknown:Full stop.
Unknown:So,
Unknown:I want you to think about these questions that I asked you
Unknown:today. I want you to really dig a little deeper, because if
Unknown:you’re not happy with your situation right now, maybe you
Unknown:don’t know what you want. And you have to find out now what
Unknown:you want, and only new, we’ll find out what you want and no
Unknown:one else in your surroundings, you are alone with us. And it is
Unknown:absolutely okay. You can’t make any other person responsible for
Unknown:this situation you’re in, I want you to call yourself out on your
Unknown:bullshit. If you were choosing to live a mediocre life because
Unknown:of other people’s opinions, other people’s judgments and
Unknown:your own little belief system. I want you to really be honest
Unknown:with yourself from today on. And if you find out what you want in
Unknown:life, then don’t waste any time. If you live in COVID
Unknown:construction right now, there’s so many things, so many little
Unknown:steps you can take in order, sorry, in order to get closer to
Unknown:your dream. And if there’s no restrictions anymore, you have
Unknown:even less excuses. And then every day, I need you to think
Unknown:of your dream and your goals and your purpose. And every day, I
Unknown:need you to take baby steps. So make time to make baby steps
Unknown:towards that new person, you want to become that new purpose
Unknown:you want to tap into. Alright, I’m gonna leave you with that.
Unknown:It was a lot of shaking and breaking and passionate talking
Unknown:here. People who know me for a little bit since episode one are
Unknown:probably not surprised. And for people who are new here, just
Unknown:know that I’m a regular girl who had a couple of very intense
Unknown:experiences. And a couple very harsh lessons I had to learn.
Unknown:And I want to share this with you in order to maybe be able to
Unknown:take shortcuts to not waste as much time as I did. And to not
Unknown:feel like a victim for so long and you’re actually a leader and
Unknown:could be out there helping other people. I’m sending my love out
Unknown:to you. Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis
Unknown:experience here. Make sure to Send me a review on Apple
Unknown:podcasts and I will be out there very soon again
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