Aurora Eggert Coaching

Hello and welcome to the Borealis experience,

I’m your host Aurora,

and yeah, today I’m so excited to be recording an episode

again, it’s been a couple weeks feels like a couple months since

I’ve recorded an episode for you just one on one, I’ll be doing

well. This episode is for you. If you want to grow, if you want

to let go of stuff that doesn’t serve you anymore. And if you

just want to be more confident with who you are, and reconnect

to yourself, and get to know your body better, take better

care of yourself. If you appreciate what I’m doing here,

please take the couple minutes, if not seconds, to write me a

quick review on Apple podcast, it would mean the world to me.

It is the currency, the biggest strongest for podcasters. To

show appreciation. Today I want to talk about your journey, your

story, your belief system, and maybe the unconscious storyline

that is dictating your life. You’re not aware that you are in

that mode. But you are in this mode. And it keeps attracting

situations that you don’t like it keeps distracting you It

keeps maybe even destroying relationships. And you’re not

even aware of it. So when you go back to season one, I deeply

recommend you going back to season one. And check out my

episodes on body awareness on your history, your story you

tell yourself and everything that Yeah, concerns you. And as

important to you. Also season two is very in depth when you

want to get to know yourself better. And this episode today,

I’m going to try and put everything in that. So that you

have like a quick energy boost a quick little reminder of where

you can start digging a little deeper where you can start and

become a little more curious, in order to be on the right path,

your right path. So I want to ask you a question. How much do

you feel you need to accomplish something? Do something in order

to feel seen and heard? Do you feel you can just be in this

world? Just be yourself. Just go about your mission? Or do you

feel like you have to be a certain person, you have to do

certain certain things, sorry. In order to feel that you have a

purpose in order to feel you belong. And then I want to ask

you, how much do you like yourself? Do you respect

yourself? Do you take really good care of your body? And I

don’t mean going to the gym? putting makeup on or nail polish

if you’re a girl putting on nice clothing. That’s all very

superficial stuff. I mean, do you deeply appreciate your body

and accept your body? deeply appreciate that your body is

serving you every second of your life without asking much from

you. Do you drink enough water deed good food? exercise of

course is important. Do you get good sleep? When you take a

shower has it just let’s get it done with or did you actually

enjoy touching your body non sexually, and again, deeply

appreciate

your body that is serving you day in and day out. Do you

understand your body? Do you understand the language as it is

speaking to you, the body is giving you very subtle signals.

And if you tend to not listen to them, you become sick. If you

tend to not listen to them, you live in discomfort and it can

even affect your mental health and make you feel depressed.

Just because your body is deficient of something that you

chose to ignore. So I invite us all today to check in, do we

take care of a body? And in doing so do we take care of our

mental health? There’s a storm coming up out there. Mother

Nature is supporting my powerful little message here today. This

is awesome. When it comes to your relationships, when it

comes to your identity, what do you identify with? Is it your

relationship to your parents that is still holding you back

from doing what you really want to do? Do you still feel like

you have to be a people pleaser. And trust me, people pleasing is

such a dangerous mode to be in. And I feel when I say dangerous,

I’m not exaggerating, because people pleasing is not good for

anybody involved. If you are the person who’s trying to please

others. You’re constantly running around and trying to

extinguish fires that are not yours. Because you don’t feel

worthy otherwise you constantly worrying about other people,

you’re constantly thinking about what people think about you, and

you want to find a place and and doing like in wanting to find a

place you just keep being that person who always wants to serve

others. And now you could say well, there’s nothing wrong with

that I don’t want to be servant or the other people and I want

to be kind person compassionate and have empathy and stuff.

Yeah, but if you do it out of the wrong reasons, you’re gonna

destroy your relationships with people. And you’re not even

going to

know why.

You’re not going to be able to set healthy boundaries, you’re

going to be sitting there and expecting stuff from people that

they don’t want to give back to you. And it’s just a whole mess

that grows on your pile of poop. Sorry to say that clearly. But

this is how it is. So if you identify with being a people

pleaser, you will keep being disappointed. You will keep

feeling drained, you will keep not understanding what is going

on with people, they are so selfish. They don’t care about

other people. And they’re just taking all the time but never

giving back. It is because you give and give and give. And

people can sense that you do it out of a lack of self

confidence. And like I love to say we’re all just animals. And

when we sense low energy activity like this, we want to

reject we want to make aware of it, we want to call it out. Or

we just cut it out of our lives when it doesn’t serve us anymore

or when it’s getting to a point that it’s getting annoying. A

person who feels they have to serve others please others on a

constant as actually even burning out others because that

person at some point will crumble will be so resentful and

hateful and accuse other people of never being there for that

person that they never asked for the help that was presented to

them. So this is a harsh wake up call. For everybody who is

trying to save everybody out there, it is not your mission to

rescue other people, you can lead and help other people out

in, in being a good example of self care. But you don’t need to

sacrifice your well being for others. And for some people, it

might sound very virtuous, but those people usually get sick or

very resentful and hateful towards people. What about your

relationship with your parents, as I started out earlier, we are

oftentimes born into families that have very different values

than ours. And when we are little, we learn that being

excluded from family is life threatening. So of course, as a

toddler, as a young person, maybe even as a teenager. It is

life threatening for you, if you have your own mind your own

dreams, that our outside of the box of your family was that a

surprise now that you are going to turn into a hardcore rebel,

or if you have your rebellion, internally, you will become

sick. I don’t think that’s a surprise. Because we’re not

born, to please

anybody out here in this world. We are born to find our purpose,

to live up to our purpose. And to serve Yes, serve other people

through our mission. Not because we feel a lack of confidence and

a lack of belonging if we don’t serve others know, because we

step into our power. And we serve other people, we help

other people because of the magical knowledge that we hold.

So when you look at your family, maybe you’re born into an

intellectual family, but you really want to be that crazy

musician who’s spreading joy all over the planet. Maybe you are

born into a creative, artistic family. And you want to be an

accountant, a banker, an investment broker. There’s

nothing bad with that. There’s only something bad with this, if

you hold back. And if you think that you need your family’s

approval to do whatever pleases your heart, what means following

your purpose, and in doing so, helping so many people out

there. So, first thing we had your body? Are you taking care

of your body? Your mental health comes right after? Are you

living your truth? Or are you still trying to please other

people out there? Because you don’t feel worthy enough? Are

you still too insecure and weak with who you are? To not set

boundaries that protect who you are, and show people how to

communicate with you and how to treat you? And then the next

point was? In what kind of family were you born in? And do

you allow yourself to fully

express your purpose? And a lot of people will say No, well,

Aurora, but I don’t know my purpose. I have that job. That

is kind of okay, but not really awesome. And I have a wonderful

family who’s supportive and everything. And we get along

greatly. Well, maybe you’re not being honest with yourself.

Maybe you think that if you were to follow your purpose, you

would disappoint your parents or your friends, or whatever. Maybe

you don’t allow yourself to see what your purpose is. Because

it’s so much easier to see yourself as a little victim of

circumstances and to not tap into your power and into your

purpose. Because that would create discomfort, temporary

disconnection from people that you feel connected right now.

And just overall disturbance. Well, this my sweetheart if you

decide to sit in that misery, you will become more miserable,

and become eventually sick, or even more bitter at the end of

the day. So you have to ask yourself, what is holding you

back? What are you scared of? What are you resisting to

explore? Where do you think you’re going to hit on

resistance, that’s where you will have to dig a little

deeper, where you don’t want to go. Sometimes the path you don’t

want to walk on is the exact path that you should be walking

on. Because that means growth. That means breaking out of

restricting energies and stuff that is holding you back,

setting yourself free, connecting with people who will

lift you up even higher, who will support you on your

mission, and make you feel real good. And you will realize, I

don’t need other people to make me feel real good. Because I

love myself and respect myself so much, that now I can only

appreciate other people’s approval, but I don’t need it

anymore. Because I know I’m doing awesome stuff. For other

people out there. If you tap into that energy, of course,

you’re going to lose friends who are maybe falling behind and

want you to be your old self. But it is okay. It is okay to

distance yourself from people who are not walking on your

path. And it is okay to reconnect with new people who

will be on your new path with you.

Full stop.

So,

I want you to think about these questions that I asked you

today. I want you to really dig a little deeper, because if

you’re not happy with your situation right now, maybe you

don’t know what you want. And you have to find out now what

you want, and only new, we’ll find out what you want and no

one else in your surroundings, you are alone with us. And it is

absolutely okay. You can’t make any other person responsible for

this situation you’re in, I want you to call yourself out on your

bullshit. If you were choosing to live a mediocre life because

of other people’s opinions, other people’s judgments and

your own little belief system. I want you to really be honest

with yourself from today on. And if you find out what you want in

life, then don’t waste any time. If you live in COVID

construction right now, there’s so many things, so many little

steps you can take in order, sorry, in order to get closer to

your dream. And if there’s no restrictions anymore, you have

even less excuses. And then every day, I need you to think

of your dream and your goals and your purpose. And every day, I

need you to take baby steps. So make time to make baby steps

towards that new person, you want to become that new purpose

you want to tap into. Alright, I’m gonna leave you with that.

It was a lot of shaking and breaking and passionate talking

here. People who know me for a little bit since episode one are

probably not surprised. And for people who are new here, just

know that I’m a regular girl who had a couple of very intense

experiences. And a couple very harsh lessons I had to learn.

And I want to share this with you in order to maybe be able to

take shortcuts to not waste as much time as I did. And to not

feel like a victim for so long and you’re actually a leader and

could be out there helping other people. I’m sending my love out

to you. Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis

experience here. Make sure to Send me a review on Apple

podcasts and I will be out there very soon again