Hey Love,
V day can be a wonderful day for some but can be hell for others..
lets look into it
you are not alone in this
I appreciate you so much
love
Aurora
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Transcript
Hello,
Unknown:and welcome to
Unknown:the Borealis experience. I’m your host Aurora. Hope you can
Unknown:find peace and relaxation here. And yeah, maybe even recharge
Unknown:your batteries. It is February 13. Tomorrow’s Valentine’s day,
Unknown:a day that is a very Yeah, loaded I feel and West Western
Unknown:world. It might bring up a lot of memories and might bring up
Unknown:weird feelings when we are single, and it might bring up a
Unknown:lot of pressure and expectations if we find ourselves in a
Unknown:relationship. So I don’t know where you at today or tomorrow
Unknown:in which relational situation you are, at the moment. But I
Unknown:want to speak to everybody. As usual, I don’t care which
Unknown:preferences you have. When it comes to your choice of partner,
Unknown:I want to speak to your heart. When you find yourself being a
Unknown:single and desperately looking for a partner, then I really
Unknown:hope that you know that you are so precious, and you don’t need
Unknown:a partner to make you feel whole and good. You need to find a way
Unknown:to feel good about yourself without a partner first. And it
Unknown:took me years and years and years and I might still not be
Unknown:there today. But this is something I learned along my
Unknown:journey is that if you don’t appreciate yourself, then people
Unknown:will not appreciate you. And second, Lee, people who want to
Unknown:love you will not know how to love you. If you don’t know
Unknown:yourself How can you express and really show the other person
Unknown:what you need and what you want and what you made of you need to
Unknown:know yourself first. So if you find yourself being sad about
Unknown:Valentine’s Day and feeling lonely, and please know you are
Unknown:precious, you are needed out there, and you will find the
Unknown:partner that suits you. You just have to fend for everybody, it’s
Unknown:individual. But what helped me was being honest with myself,
Unknown:did I do all the work needed before entering a relationship?
Unknown:Am I at peace with my past, to some degree, at least that I
Unknown:started the work and know where I still have to clean up? Do I
Unknown:know that I need to make space for the person I want to have at
Unknown:my side. So if you are at home, and going to bed at night with
Unknown:one pillow in your bed, well, here’s the good news. Get
Unknown:yourself a second pillow and create a world around you where
Unknown:a person actually has space. There’s so many people out there
Unknown:following a career or being a passionate daughter or father or
Unknown:whatever role you’re playing. And you’re craving to have a
Unknown:partner but if you look at the time you spend playing that
Unknown:role, how much space could you really make for your partner?
Unknown:Are you being honest with yourself their if you go out
Unknown:dating? Or can they actually sense that there is not much
Unknown:space you want them in your life but there’s not enough space for
Unknown:them to survive
Unknown:in your daily life. And if you are in a relationship, I really
Unknown:hope
Unknown:you can feel appreciated and good about yourself and you can
Unknown:make your partner feel the same and if you guys are into
Unknown:celebrating Valentine’s Day then awesome, love it and enjoy it
Unknown:and party and spoil each other. If you find yourself in a
Unknown:relationship where you know your partner’s totally into
Unknown:valentine’s day and you are absolutely not you hate it it’s
Unknown:just another day where you need to spend money on the other
Unknown:person well then here’s the news you guys have to find some
Unknown:common ground and he or she has to understand that it is very
Unknown:new to you or different to you to express your love and you
Unknown:don’t like to express it in a monetary way but also make a
Unknown:little effort and know that it is exciting and awesome at times
Unknown:to do something out of the norm for yourself for your partner
Unknown:and if he or she knows that you’re doing that to make her or
Unknown:him happy then and you do it from a genuine place of course
Unknown:you’re not going to resent afterwards then they’re going to
Unknown:appreciate it so much and really see that you did a big effort
Unknown:here if you are the person who is totally into valentine’s day
Unknown:and you are with a person who absolutely hate that hates it
Unknown:then yeah it is a tough place to be but you also need to
Unknown:understand that the state comes with a lot of pressure and a lot
Unknown:of expectations and sometimes when people avoid those
Unknown:occasions it is because they’re scared it is because bad
Unknown:memories come up and they don’t want them to be repeated so we
Unknown:can have compassion with them people who don’t like
Unknown:valentine’s day if we are in a relationship with them and maybe
Unknown:ask questions or maybe not and maybe just see all the 1000
Unknown:different ways they show us how much they love us just not on
Unknown:that day the way other couples do and there’s rebels out there
Unknown:to those rebels who get you flowers on every day of the year
Unknown:but not valentine’s day because they want to do it their way and
Unknown:not society’s way and isn’t that beautiful too so again let’s go
Unknown:back to single ladies and single guys out there if you feel very
Unknown:lonely today please know that you love that you’re seeing that
Unknown:you’re appreciated by so many people around you you just got
Unknown:to allow them to and you can’t expect that your partner is
Unknown:going to fulfill every single need of yours and you can let
Unknown:other people fulfill your needs already and then your partner
Unknown:will roll around like the little cherry on top of the whipped
Unknown:cream on top of the ice cream i would love to know that you
Unknown:really spoil yourself today and give yourself a foot massage or
Unknown:a hot bath or buy yourself flowers and really celebrate
Unknown:yourself look back just to see how far you came maybe you’ve
Unknown:been listening to my podcast for a little while now and you
Unknown:started to meditate and tried out some new thought patterns
Unknown:and got curious about new ways to see the world and then really
Unknown:deeply appreciate yourself and know that you’re doing great and
Unknown:you’re doing awesome and that person will come who can reflect
Unknown:that about yourself that you know about yourself already
Unknown:right a lot of people who have been single for a while and then
Unknown:enter a relationship and that person is all over them and all
Unknown:excited about them and wants to love them and appreciate them
Unknown:and the person who wanted that relationship for so long now is
Unknown:finding herself in a position of oh my god like do i even deserve
Unknown:that like that person is way too good for me and what do i have
Unknown:to do in return so if you don’t want to find yourself in a
Unknown:situation like that do the work already know that you’re worth
Unknown:already and make the space and the time
Unknown:i know it sounds very silly but pretend to go on a date and cook
Unknown:for your partner and make your house beautiful buy flowers and
Unknown:make like a beautiful candlelight dinner and imagine
Unknown:the awesome conversation you could have and instead of Yeah,
Unknown:making popcorn and binge watching Netflix. I mean, you
Unknown:can do that too as a couple, but certainly not in the first
Unknown:couple of dates. So, I really hope you don’t feel lonely
Unknown:today. Because if there’s nobody out there who appreciates you,
Unknown:and respects you, I do, because I knew know what I put out there
Unknown:is pretty challenging at times. And chances are it is not the
Unknown:first episode you are listening to. You are appreciated, you are
Unknown:loved, we need you out there. And the right partner is going
Unknown:to come. And as I said, in my Facebook, live video today,
Unknown:maybe you are not ready yet, to have a partner, maybe you do
Unknown:have to do more clean up and work on yourself. Maybe you have
Unknown:unrealistic expectations. But maybe you’re perfectly fine. And
Unknown:maybe you can just celebrate yourself and be good with
Unknown:yourself. And your partner out there who’s meant for you still
Unknown:has to clean up some stuff. And you just got to trust that the
Unknown:timing is going to be right. When you meet your person, it’s
Unknown:going to be perfect and it’s going to run smoothly and
Unknown:everything is going to unfold naturally. You got to trust the
Unknown:process. And you get to know yourself. Know what you need, in
Unknown:a very healthy way. Don’t lie to yourself and think that your
Unknown:manipulative ways your distorted ways on reality are how the
Unknown:world rules. be brutally honest with yourself and see what has
Unknown:come has to come up to to light out of the darkness and has to
Unknown:be looked at and then sorted out. And when you’ve done the
Unknown:work, work when you’re all Yeah, ready and happy with yourself,
Unknown:tend with yourself, then the right partner is going to show
Unknown:up. And it doesn’t mean that you have to be all positive and
Unknown:awesome every day. No, certainly not. just means that you’re
Unknown:being real with yourself and that you express yourself,
Unknown:honestly, and that people get to know you and see who you really
Unknown:are. Because that’s when you’re going to attract the person you
Unknown:need in your life. So from the bottom of my heart, if you love
Unknown:Valentine’s Day, I’m wishing you a happy Valentine’s Day. If you
Unknown:absolutely hate Valentine’s Day, you probably didn’t listen to my
Unknown:episode today. If you did sharpell I respect you and I
Unknown:love you. You were listening to the Borealis experience. I’m
Unknown:your host Aurora and I will be out there very soon again for
Unknown:you. Take good care of yourself.
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