Aurora Eggert Coaching

Hello,

and welcome to

the Borealis experience. I’m your host Aurora. Hope you can

find peace and relaxation here. And yeah, maybe even recharge

your batteries. It is February 13. Tomorrow’s Valentine’s day,

a day that is a very Yeah, loaded I feel and West Western

world. It might bring up a lot of memories and might bring up

weird feelings when we are single, and it might bring up a

lot of pressure and expectations if we find ourselves in a

relationship. So I don’t know where you at today or tomorrow

in which relational situation you are, at the moment. But I

want to speak to everybody. As usual, I don’t care which

preferences you have. When it comes to your choice of partner,

I want to speak to your heart. When you find yourself being a

single and desperately looking for a partner, then I really

hope that you know that you are so precious, and you don’t need

a partner to make you feel whole and good. You need to find a way

to feel good about yourself without a partner first. And it

took me years and years and years and I might still not be

there today. But this is something I learned along my

journey is that if you don’t appreciate yourself, then people

will not appreciate you. And second, Lee, people who want to

love you will not know how to love you. If you don’t know

yourself How can you express and really show the other person

what you need and what you want and what you made of you need to

know yourself first. So if you find yourself being sad about

Valentine’s Day and feeling lonely, and please know you are

precious, you are needed out there, and you will find the

partner that suits you. You just have to fend for everybody, it’s

individual. But what helped me was being honest with myself,

did I do all the work needed before entering a relationship?

Am I at peace with my past, to some degree, at least that I

started the work and know where I still have to clean up? Do I

know that I need to make space for the person I want to have at

my side. So if you are at home, and going to bed at night with

one pillow in your bed, well, here’s the good news. Get

yourself a second pillow and create a world around you where

a person actually has space. There’s so many people out there

following a career or being a passionate daughter or father or

whatever role you’re playing. And you’re craving to have a

partner but if you look at the time you spend playing that

role, how much space could you really make for your partner?

Are you being honest with yourself their if you go out

dating? Or can they actually sense that there is not much

space you want them in your life but there’s not enough space for

them to survive

in your daily life. And if you are in a relationship, I really

hope

you can feel appreciated and good about yourself and you can

make your partner feel the same and if you guys are into

celebrating Valentine’s Day then awesome, love it and enjoy it

and party and spoil each other. If you find yourself in a

relationship where you know your partner’s totally into

valentine’s day and you are absolutely not you hate it it’s

just another day where you need to spend money on the other

person well then here’s the news you guys have to find some

common ground and he or she has to understand that it is very

new to you or different to you to express your love and you

don’t like to express it in a monetary way but also make a

little effort and know that it is exciting and awesome at times

to do something out of the norm for yourself for your partner

and if he or she knows that you’re doing that to make her or

him happy then and you do it from a genuine place of course

you’re not going to resent afterwards then they’re going to

appreciate it so much and really see that you did a big effort

here if you are the person who is totally into valentine’s day

and you are with a person who absolutely hate that hates it

then yeah it is a tough place to be but you also need to

understand that the state comes with a lot of pressure and a lot

of expectations and sometimes when people avoid those

occasions it is because they’re scared it is because bad

memories come up and they don’t want them to be repeated so we

can have compassion with them people who don’t like

valentine’s day if we are in a relationship with them and maybe

different ways they show us how much they love us just not on

that day the way other couples do and there’s rebels out there

to those rebels who get you flowers on every day of the year

but not valentine’s day because they want to do it their way and

not society’s way and isn’t that beautiful too so again let’s go

back to single ladies and single guys out there if you feel very

lonely today please know that you love that you’re seeing that

you’re appreciated by so many people around you you just got

to allow them to and you can’t expect that your partner is

going to fulfill every single need of yours and you can let

other people fulfill your needs already and then your partner

will roll around like the little cherry on top of the whipped

cream on top of the ice cream i would love to know that you

really spoil yourself today and give yourself a foot massage or

a hot bath or buy yourself flowers and really celebrate

yourself look back just to see how far you came maybe you’ve

been listening to my podcast for a little while now and you

started to meditate and tried out some new thought patterns

and got curious about new ways to see the world and then really

deeply appreciate yourself and know that you’re doing great and

you’re doing awesome and that person will come who can reflect

that about yourself that you know about yourself already

right a lot of people who have been single for a while and then

enter a relationship and that person is all over them and all

excited about them and wants to love them and appreciate them

and the person who wanted that relationship for so long now is

finding herself in a position of oh my god like do i even deserve

that like that person is way too good for me and what do i have

to do in return so if you don’t want to find yourself in a

situation like that do the work already know that you’re worth

already and make the space and the time

i know it sounds very silly but pretend to go on a date and cook

for your partner and make your house beautiful buy flowers and

make like a beautiful candlelight dinner and imagine

the awesome conversation you could have and instead of Yeah,

making popcorn and binge watching Netflix. I mean, you

can do that too as a couple, but certainly not in the first

couple of dates. So, I really hope you don’t feel lonely

today. Because if there’s nobody out there who appreciates you,

and respects you, I do, because I knew know what I put out there

is pretty challenging at times. And chances are it is not the

first episode you are listening to. You are appreciated, you are

loved, we need you out there. And the right partner is going

to come. And as I said, in my Facebook, live video today,

maybe you are not ready yet, to have a partner, maybe you do

have to do more clean up and work on yourself. Maybe you have

unrealistic expectations. But maybe you’re perfectly fine. And

maybe you can just celebrate yourself and be good with

yourself. And your partner out there who’s meant for you still

has to clean up some stuff. And you just got to trust that the

timing is going to be right. When you meet your person, it’s

going to be perfect and it’s going to run smoothly and

everything is going to unfold naturally. You got to trust the

process. And you get to know yourself. Know what you need, in

a very healthy way. Don’t lie to yourself and think that your

manipulative ways your distorted ways on reality are how the

world rules. be brutally honest with yourself and see what has

come has to come up to to light out of the darkness and has to

be looked at and then sorted out. And when you’ve done the

work, work when you’re all Yeah, ready and happy with yourself,

tend with yourself, then the right partner is going to show

up. And it doesn’t mean that you have to be all positive and

awesome every day. No, certainly not. just means that you’re

being real with yourself and that you express yourself,

honestly, and that people get to know you and see who you really

are. Because that’s when you’re going to attract the person you

need in your life. So from the bottom of my heart, if you love

Valentine’s Day, I’m wishing you a happy Valentine’s Day. If you

absolutely hate Valentine’s Day, you probably didn’t listen to my

episode today. If you did sharpell I respect you and I

love you. You were listening to the Borealis experience. I’m

your host Aurora and I will be out there very soon again for

you. Take good care of yourself.