Aurora Eggert Coaching

Hello, and

welcome to the Borealis experience. I’m your host

Aurora. I’m very happy to be spending some time with you

today. Thank you so much for being here. I hope the COVID

situation is not bugging you too much. I hope you don’t feel too

lonely. I hope you got things to do. I hope you got friends to

talk to a warm place to stay. And a warm, hard to live from. I

live in Canada and the Rocky Mountains, it’s very, very cold

here. And for the last two days, I didn’t have water in my house.

Today it came back because the temperatures were at minus two

degrees again, instead of minus 30. And I must say I feel like a

million bucks right now. I was able to take a shower, I don’t

have to worry about going to the bathroom, I was able to do a

laundry. And then I took a chance to paint my fingernails.

And I don’t have to calculate how much water I want to drink

during the day.

So

a huge stress has been lifted from my shoulders. And

yesterday, I was pretty interesting to observe my mind

because I caught my monkey mind being that

judgmental aggressive bitch again. But now I learned to not

let my monkey mind a rule my life. For example, I was going

for groceries.

And

I don’t know every person that was kind of there, minding her

or his business triggered me and I had like thoughts of Yeah,

swearing thoughts in my brain because I was in so much

distress with no water situation. And I just had a bad

day because I had to think and feel a lot about my friend who

had passed away around this time of year, a couple years back. So

I was just in a very dark place. And sometimes when we are in

those places, we take it out on others and it is not our core.

It is not our intention, it is not our nature that is being

that judgmental, harsh bitch in that moment. It is our ego. I

call it the monkey mind because I just like that word so much.

It is your ego that is wounded that is heard that feels

triggered and that reacts to stimulus from the outside. And

when you observe your monkey mind, you can very quickly

distinguish between your true soul message that you want to

put out there in the world. And your ego talking. Your ego is

usually very judgmental,

jealous,

very negative and fear driven. The fear is what drives the ego

and on the same. Like on the other side at the same time I

want to say it wants to to be protected from further pain that

happened in the past. So it’s not a bad thing the ego like you

can live in total ego. Like with dissolved ego, you always have

your ego close by and it’s good if it’s a healthy confidence if

it’s healthy pride. But as soon as it becomes too competitive,

and as soon as you keep comparing yourself to others,

then you can be sure your ego is at play. And meditation helps

you to observe that ego. When you sit down at night or in the

morning or whenever you wish to. You observe your thoughts you

observe how you reacted in certain situations during your

day. And then while you sit there you can do distinguish was

I operating from my heart space or from my ego, from my mind,

from my ego, monkey mind, space. And then while you observe it,

you can distinguish. And then in the future, you can correct it,

change it adapted. So whatever we observe whatever we reveal,

whatever we bring to light out of the darkness, we can observe

in the future and correct. And this is such a beautiful thing

to realize, because you don’t have to be that victim, you

don’t have to be that aggressive person, you don’t have to be

that jealous, insecure person, you can go behind the reason and

let go of it and observe yourself, every time you fall

back into that trigger every time you feel the need to have a

strong opinion, that is separating people instead of

bringing them together, when you have a judgement about someone.

And it is just because of your past experience, it has nothing

to do with them, then you can reach back and come back to your

true self. And know that that little voice that was guiding

you for so long, can be pushed aside. It can be silenced, you

can turn the volume down, like you do with your radio, when

you’re driving in your car, or wherever you listen to music. So

your ego can be very annoying. It can annoy you. Like if you

know eka tala is a spiritual leader that I really look up to

because he was really a couple hours. Before his suicide, he

was like, so done with life. He hated everything, he couldn’t

get out of his sadness. And he was so ready to commit suicide.

And then he suddenly heard his voice say, heard him say, I

don’t want to live with myself anymore. And in that moment, and

for every person that is different, you don’t have to be

just before suicide. But for him, it was like, Wait a second,

like, who just said that? I don’t want to live with myself

anymore? Well, I don’t, I don’t have to be that person anymore.

So he realized that he’s not his thoughts. He’s not his monkey

mind. He’s not as ego. That thing can be like a broken

record. And so repetitive and your thoughts are always around

the same subjects. And when you relate to people, it’s always

the same way. While you can break out of it, you can make

changes, and you can be the most powerful version of yourself.

Once you recognize that you are not your thoughts, your thoughts

Is there like a sense, they’re like a sense because whatever

happens outside of you, you have an opinion, you have a judgment,

you are being reminded to your past. And then you have these

thoughts.

And these thoughts, in turn, stimulate emotions, all the

emotions come up when you have that certain thought. And then

you have that feeling in your body. And you don’t like that

feeling in your body. And then you engage in that habit that

you have to make you feel better. Do you see that vicious

cycle when we follow our thoughts too much? When you let

the monkey mind, rule your world instead of your heart. And now

you can ask, well what is acting from the heart space? How can I

go back to that? First step is to observe your thoughts. And

especially in situations where you feel strong emotions coming

up. Of course, if you’re encountering the saber toothed

tiger, an extreme fear of survival is being triggered.

Then you have the uncomfortable emotions and an uncomfortable

feeling in your body and you have to react. But chances are

you are living in a city or in the countryside and you’re

pretty safe and you have everything you need water, food,

shelter, friends. And there’s situations that bring that

feeling out and out inside of you. But only because it’s an

old wound that hasn’t healed yet. It can be an old memory

that makes you feel shitty about yourself. And it still makes you

mad. And it brings these thoughts up these emotions as

physical sensation. And then you have to engage in that stupid

habit again, that makes you feel better. Now, next time you feel

triggered, or you feel your monkey mind is ruling, wait, and

count until three until five, maybe until 10. And see what

happens. Because what the ego thinks that ego things, it can

control everything, it can prevent everything. But that

deer Love is not possible. If you go into the life, thinking

that you can control anything, you are in a very weak spot,

because I’d rather you be going out there and thinking that

everything is a coincidence, or everything can change in a

second, and nothing is predictable. Because then you

can enjoy the moments that last for a little longer. If you

think that there’s no change and changes are preventable, then

you make yourself a very hard life. So observe your thoughts

and see how you want to react in certain situations, what you

want to say, Is it really necessary? Or can you be kind,

can you be compassionate, instead of reacting quickly. And

I don’t mean with others first, I mean, with your firm with

yourself first. And when you can be compassionate with yourself

and see, hey, okay, I feel triggered. Now, I want to react

so strongly, because I don’t like that situation. And you can

remember why you feel so triggered and make peace with

that thing that annoys you so much. And don’t let it suck more

energy out of you the necessary, then you can move on. And next

time, you might only have to count until two. And then you

know, our shit. I feel triggered again, by us trying to rule

again. Let’s wait a second and see if we can approach this

situation in a more healthy way. I will talk way more about that

topic because I’m super passionate about it. And that’s

one of the things that helped me the most to sit with my thoughts

and to observe my thoughts during the day and tend to

readjust. For now. I think it’s enough. I don’t want to

overwhelm you. You were listening to the Borealis

experience. I’m your host Aurora. And I would love you to

join me on instagram because I’d love to know what your thoughts

are on this and you can have a peek into my life. I share lots

about my dog and my my chickens and my farm life out here. And

yeah, be lovely to connect. Thank you so much. Bye bye